We Got This: Solo Mom Stories of Grit, Heart, and Humor

We Got This: Solo Mom Stories of Grit, Heart, and Humor

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Overview

In the United States, more than 15 million women are parenting children on their own, either by circumstance or by choice. Too often these moms who do it all have been misrepresented and maligned. Not anymore. In We Got This, seventy-five solo mom writers tell the truth about their lives—their hopes and fears, their resilience and setbacks, their embarrassments and triumphs. Some of these writers’ names will sound familiar, like Amy Poehler, Anne Lamott, and Elizabeth Alexander, while others are about to become unforgettable. Bound together by their strength, pride, and—most of all— their dedication to their children, they broadcast a universal and empowering message: You are not alone, solo moms—and your tenacity, courage, and fierce love are worthy of celebration.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781631526565
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 09/10/2019
Pages: 352
Sales rank: 816,735
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Dr. Marika Lindholm founded ESME.com to ignite a social movement of solo moms. A trained sociologist, Lindholm taught courses on inequality, diversity, and gender at Northwestern University for over a decade. In addition to publishing numerous scholarly articles, she has been a regular contributor to Psychology Today, Working Mother, Mind Body Green, and Talk Space. She has published essays and fiction in the Daily News, Elephant Journal, The Hill, Ms., Silent Voices, and the Southern Indiana Review.

Cheryl Dumesnil’s books include two collection of poems, Showtime at the Ministry of Lost Causes and In Praise of Falling (winner of the Agnes Lynch Starrett Prize and the Golden Crown Literary Society Prize for Poetry); a memoir, Love Song for Baby X: How I Stayed (Almost) Sane on the Rocky Road to Parenthood; and the anthology Dorothy Parker’s Elbow: Tattoos on Writers, Writers on Tattoos, coedited with Kim Addonizio. Her stint as a solo mom ended in 2017 when she married her soul mate, Sarah, a.k.a. the Best Stepparent in the World.

Katherine Shonk is the author of Happy Now? a novel set in Chicago, and The Red Passport, a short-story collection set in Russia. Her writing has appeared in Best American Short Stories, Tin House, StoryQuarterly, the Georgia Review, the Moscow Times, the Chicago Tribune, Cicada, and elsewhere. Shonk lives in her hometown of Evanston, Illinois, and works as a freelance writer and editor.

Domenica Ruta is the author of the New York Times bestseller With or Without You, a memoir about growing up with a heroin-addicted solo mom. Her forthcoming book, The Last Day, a novel, was written in a postpartum fugue state as a new solo mom to her son. She lives in New York City.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents







Introduction 11



Marika Lindholm







Chapter One: The Kids Are Alright



The Road 15



Teresa Mei Chuc



You Were Born to Be Loved 16



Domenica Ruta



from The Light of the World: A Memoir 21



Elizabeth Alexander



When One Door Closes, Another One Opens 24



Terri Linton



Notes to My Autistic Daughter 27



Marianne Peel Forman



I Was the Different One 30



Nisa Rashid



Return 35



Dorianne Laux



Teaching My Son to Write: An Abecedarian 37



Stacia Fleegal



It’s Really Not a Big Deal 39



Jacob Kronenberg



An Open Letter to Our Sperm Donor 42



Robin Silbergleid



Dad Day: Death Is a Holiday 44



Lennlee Keep



How to Pray 48



Sage Cohen



Butterfly and Sunshine 50



Marika Lindholm







Chapter Two: Lean on Me



Finding My Voice, Feeding My Friends 57



Janelle Hardy



For My Sisters 61



Sharisse Kimbro



from A Beautiful, Terrible Thing 65



Jen Waite



Raising a Boy Without a Man 71



Kathleen Laccinole



September 17 76



Anne Lamott



Prayer 78



Keetje Kuipers



The Godfather 80



Margot Kessler



the lost women 83



Lucille Clifton



We Are Loved 84



Amy Rivers



XIII 88



Adrienne Rich



Tahlequah 89



Isa Down



All the Single Ladies 90



Jennifer Baumgardner







Chapter Three: A Day in the Life



When a Car Wreck Collides with Picking Up the Kids 98



Melissa Stephenson



How to Comfort a Small Child 101



Abby Murray



Rules for Being Twenty 105



Ariel Gore



Evening Guilt 108



Kristie Robin Johnson



"I’m the woman who hit your daughter with my car" 111



Courtney Christine



Life After the NICU 119



Sarah Netter



My Life as a Refugee 124



Faleeha Hassan



The Rookie 129



January Gill O’Neil



This Is Your Life 131



Fern Capella



Crying It Out 136



Robin Silbergleid



They Give Awards For That 138



Lee Nash







Chapter Four: Good Morning Heartache



Why We Stay 141



VersAnnette Blackman-Bosia



When He Died 144



Robin Rogers



This Lesson My Boy Already Knows 148



Georgia Pearle



from The Light of the World: A Memoir 151



Elizabeth Alexander



Then 155



Ruth Stone



When Black Lives Matter More than You Ever Imagined 157



Deborah Pannell



In a Quiet Moment 161



Hilary Melton



Heroin Rain 163



Anne Spollen



On Home 168



Lisa Fay Coutley



What I Will Tell His Daughter, When She’s Old Enough to Ask 170



Meg Day



Grey Street 171



Angela Ricketts







Chapter Five: A Change Is Gonna Come



Now That I Am Forever with Child 178



Audre Lorde



Coming Out Pregnant! 180



Staceyann Chin



The Story, For Now 187



Janlori Goldman



Myths of Botany and Motherhood 191



Isa Down



Gravity 195



Kim Addonizio



The Nervous Hospital 196



Mary Karr



What Remains 202



Jaimie Seaton



It Will Look Like a Sunset 207



Kelly Sundberg



Cicadas 221



Rachel Jamison Webster



My Books on Divorce 224



Amy Poehler



Today, I Am Mostly Crying 230



Claire Gillespie







Chapter Six: Isn't It Romantic



Size Queen 234



Evie Peck



All Manner of Obscene Things 239



Kim Addonizio



Origami Wishes 241



Akesha Baron



How My Daughter Taught Me to Trust Again 244



Rachel Sarah



Personals 248



Muriel Johnson



Kaboom 249



Susan Goldberg



I Don’t Want Your Husband 256



P. Charlotte Lindsey



How to Love 259



January Gill O’Neil



You Can’t “Undo” This One 261



Jessica Bern



I Ask the Impossible 265



Ana Castillo







Chapter Seven: Here Comes the Sun



Yeah, but . . . 268



Cheryl Dumesnil



My Birth, My Way 276



Cate Morrissey



How I Came to Me 279



Malaika King Albrecht



Teacher and Teammate 282



Sarah Kowalski



The Sky Is Everywhere 288



Nancy Sharp



Divorce Cliché 290



Shannon Lell



Sunday 292



January Gill O’Neil



Why I Don’t Grieve for My Daughter at College 294



Ylonda Gault



Deconstructing Kanji 298



Mika Yamamoto



After He Left 302



Jeanie Tomasko



I’d Loved Before, But Never Like This 304



asha bandele



Contributors 307



Permissions & Acknowledgments 331







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