We Got This: Solo Mom Stories of Grit, Heart, and Humor

We Got This: Solo Mom Stories of Grit, Heart, and Humor


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In the United States, more than 15 million women are parenting children on their own, either by circumstance or by choice. Too often these moms who do it all have been misrepresented and maligned. Not anymore. In We Got This, seventy-five solo mom writers tell the truth about their lives—their hopes and fears, their resilience and setbacks, their embarrassments and triumphs. Some of these writers’ names will sound familiar, like Amy Poehler, Anne Lamott, and Elizabeth Alexander, while others are about to become unforgettable. Bound together by their strength, pride, and—most of all— their dedication to their children, they broadcast a universal and empowering message: You are not alone, solo moms—and your tenacity, courage, and fierce love are worthy of celebration.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781631526565
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 09/10/2019
Pages: 352
Sales rank: 816,735
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Dr. Marika Lindholm founded ESME.com to ignite a social movement of solo moms. A trained sociologist, Lindholm taught courses on inequality, diversity, and gender at Northwestern University for over a decade. In addition to publishing numerous scholarly articles, she has been a regular contributor to Psychology Today, Working Mother, Mind Body Green, and Talk Space. She has published essays and fiction in the Daily News, Elephant Journal, The Hill, Ms., Silent Voices, and the Southern Indiana Review.

Cheryl Dumesnil’s books include two collection of poems, Showtime at the Ministry of Lost Causes and In Praise of Falling (winner of the Agnes Lynch Starrett Prize and the Golden Crown Literary Society Prize for Poetry); a memoir, Love Song for Baby X: How I Stayed (Almost) Sane on the Rocky Road to Parenthood; and the anthology Dorothy Parker’s Elbow: Tattoos on Writers, Writers on Tattoos, coedited with Kim Addonizio. Her stint as a solo mom ended in 2017 when she married her soul mate, Sarah, a.k.a. the Best Stepparent in the World.

Katherine Shonk is the author of Happy Now? a novel set in Chicago, and The Red Passport, a short-story collection set in Russia. Her writing has appeared in Best American Short Stories, Tin House, StoryQuarterly, the Georgia Review, the Moscow Times, the Chicago Tribune, Cicada, and elsewhere. Shonk lives in her hometown of Evanston, Illinois, and works as a freelance writer and editor.

Domenica Ruta is the author of the New York Times bestseller With or Without You, a memoir about growing up with a heroin-addicted solo mom. Her forthcoming book, The Last Day, a novel, was written in a postpartum fugue state as a new solo mom to her son. She lives in New York City.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Introduction 11

Marika Lindholm

Chapter One: The Kids Are Alright

The Road 15

Teresa Mei Chuc

You Were Born to Be Loved 16

Domenica Ruta

from The Light of the World: A Memoir 21

Elizabeth Alexander

When One Door Closes, Another One Opens 24

Terri Linton

Notes to My Autistic Daughter 27

Marianne Peel Forman

I Was the Different One 30

Nisa Rashid

Return 35

Dorianne Laux

Teaching My Son to Write: An Abecedarian 37

Stacia Fleegal

It’s Really Not a Big Deal 39

Jacob Kronenberg

An Open Letter to Our Sperm Donor 42

Robin Silbergleid

Dad Day: Death Is a Holiday 44

Lennlee Keep

How to Pray 48

Sage Cohen

Butterfly and Sunshine 50

Marika Lindholm

Chapter Two: Lean on Me

Finding My Voice, Feeding My Friends 57

Janelle Hardy

For My Sisters 61

Sharisse Kimbro

from A Beautiful, Terrible Thing 65

Jen Waite

Raising a Boy Without a Man 71

Kathleen Laccinole

September 17 76

Anne Lamott

Prayer 78

Keetje Kuipers

The Godfather 80

Margot Kessler

the lost women 83

Lucille Clifton

We Are Loved 84

Amy Rivers


Adrienne Rich

Tahlequah 89

Isa Down

All the Single Ladies 90

Jennifer Baumgardner

Chapter Three: A Day in the Life

When a Car Wreck Collides with Picking Up the Kids 98

Melissa Stephenson

How to Comfort a Small Child 101

Abby Murray

Rules for Being Twenty 105

Ariel Gore

Evening Guilt 108

Kristie Robin Johnson

"I’m the woman who hit your daughter with my car" 111

Courtney Christine

Life After the NICU 119

Sarah Netter

My Life as a Refugee 124

Faleeha Hassan

The Rookie 129

January Gill O’Neil

This Is Your Life 131

Fern Capella

Crying It Out 136

Robin Silbergleid

They Give Awards For That 138

Lee Nash

Chapter Four: Good Morning Heartache

Why We Stay 141

VersAnnette Blackman-Bosia

When He Died 144

Robin Rogers

This Lesson My Boy Already Knows 148

Georgia Pearle

from The Light of the World: A Memoir 151

Elizabeth Alexander

Then 155

Ruth Stone

When Black Lives Matter More than You Ever Imagined 157

Deborah Pannell

In a Quiet Moment 161

Hilary Melton

Heroin Rain 163

Anne Spollen

On Home 168

Lisa Fay Coutley

What I Will Tell His Daughter, When She’s Old Enough to Ask 170

Meg Day

Grey Street 171

Angela Ricketts

Chapter Five: A Change Is Gonna Come

Now That I Am Forever with Child 178

Audre Lorde

Coming Out Pregnant! 180

Staceyann Chin

The Story, For Now 187

Janlori Goldman

Myths of Botany and Motherhood 191

Isa Down

Gravity 195

Kim Addonizio

The Nervous Hospital 196

Mary Karr

What Remains 202

Jaimie Seaton

It Will Look Like a Sunset 207

Kelly Sundberg

Cicadas 221

Rachel Jamison Webster

My Books on Divorce 224

Amy Poehler

Today, I Am Mostly Crying 230

Claire Gillespie

Chapter Six: Isn't It Romantic

Size Queen 234

Evie Peck

All Manner of Obscene Things 239

Kim Addonizio

Origami Wishes 241

Akesha Baron

How My Daughter Taught Me to Trust Again 244

Rachel Sarah

Personals 248

Muriel Johnson

Kaboom 249

Susan Goldberg

I Don’t Want Your Husband 256

P. Charlotte Lindsey

How to Love 259

January Gill O’Neil

You Can’t “Undo” This One 261

Jessica Bern

I Ask the Impossible 265

Ana Castillo

Chapter Seven: Here Comes the Sun

Yeah, but . . . 268

Cheryl Dumesnil

My Birth, My Way 276

Cate Morrissey

How I Came to Me 279

Malaika King Albrecht

Teacher and Teammate 282

Sarah Kowalski

The Sky Is Everywhere 288

Nancy Sharp

Divorce Cliché 290

Shannon Lell

Sunday 292

January Gill O’Neil

Why I Don’t Grieve for My Daughter at College 294

Ylonda Gault

Deconstructing Kanji 298

Mika Yamamoto

After He Left 302

Jeanie Tomasko

I’d Loved Before, But Never Like This 304

asha bandele

Contributors 307

Permissions & Acknowledgments 331

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