Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

by Ada Calhoun
Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

by Ada Calhoun


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Seven essays celebrating the beauty of the imperfect marriage.

We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single.

In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.”

Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780393356007
Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 06/05/2018
Pages: 192
Sales rank: 457,309
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Ada Calhoun has written for the New York Times, New York magazine, and the New York Post. Her book St. Marks Is Dead was named a New York Times Editors’ Choice and a Boston Globe Best Book of the Year.

Table of Contents

Introduction: "Do You Know Why You're Here?" 13

Toast 1 Paying for Each Others Mistakes 21

Toast 2 The Boring Parts 32

Toast 3 Containing Multitudes 54

Toast 4 The Truth About Soul Mates 70

Toast 5 Fighting in Rental Cars 87

Toast 6 Other People, Other Cities 99

Toast 7 "Love Is Strong as Death" 128

Epilogue: One Toast I Would Actually Give 157

Appendix: Toward a More Realistic Reception Playlist 165

Acknowledgments 167

Notes 169

Bibliography 183

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