Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence

Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence

by Jocelyn Andersen


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ISBN-13: 9780979429309
Publisher: One Way Cafe Press
Publication date: 05/15/2007
Pages: 156
Sales rank: 1,296,355
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.33(d)
Age Range: 3 Months

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Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
jocelynandersen on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Fear, desperation, pain, humiliation, and confusion are constant companions to all women who experience abuse of any sort at the hands of their husbands. But the evangelical Christian woman finds herself faced with the unique burden of also needing to know the specific will of God concerning her situation. I call this a unique burden, because assimilating all the conflicting information she receives from books, well-intentioned Christian friends, family members and spiritual leaders can leave her head spinning--and her ego spiraling...in precisely the wrong direction. To make matters worse, the counsel she receives often ranges from disappointing at best to life-threatening at worst. The practice of hiding, ignoring and even perpetuating the emotional and physical abuse of women is still rampant within evangelical Christian fellowships, and as slow as our legal systems have been in dealing with violence against women by their husbands, the church has been even slower. Abuse among Christians often creates a cruel catch-22, as many evangelicals view recommending separation or divorce as unscriptural, but then view the battered/abused woman with contempt for staying in the situation and tolerating the abuse. Victims quickly pick up on this hypocritical attitude and either leave the church altogether--or begin hiding the abuse. Either way, they are forfeiting the spiritual guidance and emotional support they so desperately need. The Christian woman whose spirit is being crushed and whose life is endangered by domestic violence needs straight answers--not unrealistic expectations or clichéd, stereotypical platitudes. In this book she will get straight answers, clear scriptural direction and some tough challenges from one who has been there, but is there no longer. Ministers, friends and family of the abused will find the book informative, useful and challenging as well. Spousal abuse and domestic violence was not introduced into my life until I reached my late thirties, so I understand both sides of the issue very well. Prior to the abuse, no one could have convinced me that my attitude toward battered and abused women was both casual and condescending, or that I would ever tolerate it myself--yet it was, and I did. As both a minister and a woman who has experienced abuse, I feel I can contribute a unique, personal perspective to the small but growing data base of books concerned with the issue of domestic violence. My own experience, together with research and the feedback I have received from many other battered women, has convinced me that, even in these "enlightened" times we live in, the battered/abused woman is still very much alone and confused in her struggle. It is my prayer that this book will provide answers, bring hope, and prove to be of practical value to both the battered/abused woman and to those she is most likely to turn to for help.
lillieammann on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
Although I don't agree completely with Andersen's theology, her message is valuable and important. Christians must understand domestic violence to put a stop to it. Some churches and some Christians exacerbate the problem because they don't realize the abuse is a violation of the marriage vows and cannot be justified or excused by distortion of Scripture.
Diane Yates More than 1 year ago
If you are a victim of domestic violence or in a position to offer counsel to someone who is, this book is a must read. This first chapter is so compelling, it hooked me. I am not a victim, nor do I know anyone that is, but as a friend, ministry leader, or an acquaintance, my path might one day cross with someone who is in the throes of home violence. I pray that my words would be encouraging and wise; that they would be led by the Spirit and consistent with scripture. Reading this book has removed my “rose colored glasses” and opened my eyes to a dangerous error being made today in Christian circles. The author writes from first-hand experience as a victim of domestic violence, after careful self-examination, exhaustive research, and all under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Her target audience is Christians dealing with domestic violence, and with that said, much of it also pertains to victims in general, and primarily to battered women by their spouses or male partners. The author effectively provides valid arguments for viewpoints usually overlooked by Christian leaders attempting to counsel women in abusive relationships. I don’t want to give away her insights that readers will find so fascinating as they read, and yet I want to convey the excellence of the book in content, form, and style. The book dynamically addresses the roles friends and family often take and presents insights into the psyche of victims. The writing is excellent! I found it hard to put down. Andersen makes notable statements like, “And although to some it may come as a complete surprise, psychologists are NOT the experts on the human condition – Jesus Christ our creator is” and “Stay and pray – only serves to enable the abuser to comfortably continue his sinful and illegal behavior while keeping his victim in harm’s way.” Andersen declares the power of Proverbs 3:5-6 and the need for all involved in such cases to wholly rely on it. I heard voices! Those of past ministers and well-known Christian Leaders. I also, recognized the strength of the author, her intention, determination, and faith. I highly recommend this book for EVERYONE.