When couples start thinking ahead about their 'transition into parenthood', they picture the family of their dreams.
But 'transition' doesn't describe the reality for most new parents. 'Adventure into the unknown' is more like it. And, like any adventure, there's bound to be some rivers to cross and mountains to climb.
If you're a new parent, you'll be discovering this for yourself. Your baby is beyond adorable, but some of the learning curves are probably steeper than you'd expected. Breastfeeding doesn't necessarily come naturally at first. Settling your baby can leave you with frayed nerves. Negotiating visits from your in-laws can cause conflict and your partner just doesn't understand. Some days you're ahead and others you're feeling snowed under. You may wonder what's happening and why it's happening to you, when everyone on Instagram seems to be doing just fine.
If this sounds like you, don't worry, you're not alone! Forget Instagram. Most new parents struggle at some stage. Chances are you just weren't prepared for it all. You had regular check-ups during pregnancy, a team for your birth and then nothing, nada, zip. You and your partner have to figure out all the 'after you get the baby home stuff' on your own.
But what if you could both plan now for the next river or mountain or snow day? Even if you have older children? What if you could have foresight for the normal and common parenthood challenges that life's likely to throw at you over the next few years? What if, no matter where you were in your parenthood adventure, there was a way, not only to cope with the challenges, but to pull closer as a couple through them and become the best parenting team possible at the same time?
There is a way. It's never too late to create the family you dream about. AND you don't have to figure it all out on your own. You may just need some direction to get you to the next stage.
Based on 15 years of research, Becoming Us describes the normal stages that mothers, fathers, and partners go through as they raise a family, and ways to navigate each stage. People say nothing can prepare parents for parenthood, but Becoming Us gives you the knowledge, practical skills and guidance to love, learn and grow - step by step - into a family that thrives.
|Publisher:||Three Turtles Press|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.82(d)|
About the Author
A couples counsellor and new mother at the same time, Elly Taylor began researching the transition into parenthood after noticing stretch marks in her relationship with her partner as they were becoming a family.
Fast forward 20 years and Elly is now teaching the Becoming Us approach to professionals worldwide.
Elly lives in a Sydney with her firefighter husband, their three children and a bunch of pets.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
In the transition from being partners to becoming parents, I believe it is virtually impossible, before a baby arrives, to appreciate the changes in lifestyle that will be demanded of us. And even more impossible to fathom the changes that will occur within us as we become mother/father, and between us as we assume these roles. In fact, in the U.S, 30% of fathers leave their families in the first 3 years after the birth of a child, and many more leave emotionally. If every parent-to-be or new parent were to read Becoming Us there would be a dramatic number of reductions in the number of men who leave. Little acknowledgment is given the fact that pregnancy is a time of tremendous change and uncertainty for many men. During pregnancy, dads-to-be have legitimate needs and concerns, and addressing these enables a man to be more fully present to his partner and baby. Imminently readable, practical and engaging, this book addresses the very legitimate issues and concerns that emerge for the expectant dad, and supports him through this vital passage to parenthood--all this, in a nutshell. While there are a number of books written to support mothers in the transition to motherhood, and a few supporting dads, there are very few that directly address the couple. This book does that in a way that engages both mom and dad (or partner)... and paves the way to a deeper shared connection for couples in the transition from being partners to becoming parents. This book is a must read. The insights and wisdom gained from Taylor's experience as a relationship counselor, educator, columnist and—perhaps most significantly--wife and mother herself, are evident on every page. Meryn Callander, Why Dads Leave: Insights & Resources for When Partners Become Parents.
Elly has a gift of insight and connection. It's clear that her own experience, backed by the extensive research cited, has positioned her as an absolutely perfect advocate for strengthening marriages and families through growing together. As I read her wisdom and thoughts, I was enlightened in my understanding of how important these relationships are to our own personal growth and fulfillment. As a father of five, I highly recommend the book to any expecting parents, whether it be your 1st or 15th child because the process is similar and Elly's words are spot on. Brandon Pipkin, Author, "21 Questions for 21 Millionaires"