Between Fathers and Daughters: Enriching and Rebuilding Your Adult Relationship

by Linda Nielsen

Overview

At last! A no-nonsense, entertaining, and insightful book for dads and daughters who want more from their relationship—or who want to understand and rebuild it on an adult level. Dr. Linda Nielsen addresses the questions that daughters and dads regularly ask her—and a lot more. Based on two decades of work with hundreds of dads and daughters, BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS summarizes cutting-edge research in clear language and offers compelling stories about real people—including well-known celebrities. With candor and humor, BETWEEN FATHERS AND DAUGHTERS exposes the half-truths, downright lies, and family dynamics that prevent so many dads and daughters from having a more relaxed, more meaningful, more communicative relationship, regardless of age. Explaining why most daughter-dad relationships haven't reached their full potential or have unraveled, Nielsen provides hope as she shows fathers and daughters how to make changes now!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781581826616
Publisher:	Turner Publishing Company
Publication date:	09/01/2008
Pages:	256
Sales rank:	536,772
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments     xv
Why Bother?     3
Is This Book for You?     3
Is It Too Late?     5
Why Listen to Me?     7
Your Relationship: The Far-Reaching Impact     8
Four Foolish Beliefs     11
Why Try Again?     13
Five Reasons Not to Read This Book     15
Blinding, Binding Beliefs: Fathers Do Matter!     19
Damaging Beliefs     19
The Media: Demeaning and Denigrating Dads     20
Your Family's Beliefs     21
The Impact of Your Family's Beliefs     23
The Tricksters: Beliefs, Memory, and Perception     25
So Now What?     31
Why Fathers Matter     33
Daughters' Impact on Their Fathers     40
African American Fathers     42
Internet Resources     44
Communicating: We Can Do Better Than This     47
Your Emotional Intelligence     48
Are Men Blockheads?     52
Feeling Less Afraid     55
Advice or Interference?     58
Dealing With Anger     65
Emotional Blackmail     66
Asking for Change     69
Accepting Me for Myself     71
Dads with Critical or Rejecting Daughters     74
Movies as Catalysts     76
Is It Worth It?     78
Getting to Know Each Other     81
Knowing You, Not Just Loving You     82
Bad News for Dads and Daughters     84
Equal Opportunity Fathers and Daughters     85
Spending Time Together     85
Meaningful Questions     90
Biracial Daughters     95
How to Discuss "It"     98
Discussing Your Relationship     99
Lies and Deception     103
Apologizing and Forgiving     105
Is It Worth It?     111
Work and Money: Minefields and Misunderstandings     113
Men's Money, Women's Love     114
Damaging Myths: Demeaning Our Dads     115
Dad's Job: Impact on Daughters     119
College Years: Banking on Dad     128
Daughter's Career Plans     131
Mothers: Father Friendly or Not?     135
Idealizing Mothers     136
Father-Friendly Mothers     139
The Sacrificing Martyr Mom     143
The Jealous Mom     145
Happily Married-or Not!     147
Strengthening Your Bond     154
Divorce and Remarriage: Resolving, Renewing, Repairing     157
Who Pays the Price?     158
Demoralizing and Demeaning Divorced Dads     160
What Dads and Daughters Want-But Rarely Get     165
Money-The Never Ending Battle     168
Mother: Dad's Ally?     171
African American Dads: Baby's Mama Drama     175
Dad Remarries: Oh Happy Days!     177
The Blame Game: Lousy Husband, Lousy Father?     185
Reconnecting: Starting Over     187
What to Say?     192
Sex: Let's Stop Pretending     197
Checkups: What Do You Believe?     200
The Fear Factor     206
Damaging Beliefs About Dads     209
The College Years     213
Dad's Sexuality     216
Privacy or Deception?     219
Dad's Approval     220
Handling Your Differences     222
Moving Forward     225
Reconciling or Letting Go     227
Barriers to Reconciling     227
Dads Who Leave, Daughters Who Grieve     228
So Now What?     233
Notes     237
Index     253