Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap

by Janae B. Weinhold Ph.D., Barry K. Weinhold Ph.D., John Bradshaw (Foreword by)

Overview

This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life.

Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781577316145
Publisher:	New World Library
Publication date:	01/28/2008
Edition description:	Second Edition
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

Table of Contents

Foreword   John Bradshaw     ix
Introduction     xi
Co-Dependency Revisited
Co-dependency: Getting Stuck in Infancy     3
The Medical Model: Stuck in Hopelessness     19
The Co-dependent Culture     29
A Developmental Approach to Recovery     47
The Causes of Co-dependency     61
The Recovery Process
The Elements of Recovery     75
Facing Your Problem     87
Understanding the Causes of Co-dependency     99
Unraveling Co-dependent Relationships     109
I Have Met the Enemy and It Is I     119
Eliminating Self-hatred     133
Giving Up Power and Control Games     143
Learning to Ask for What You Want     157
Learning to Feel Again     167
Healing Your Inner Child     175
Building Your Boundaries     189
Forming Bonds of Intimacy     203
New Forms of Relationship     217
Healing the Co-dependent Culture     227
How We Changed Our Co-dependent Patterns     239
Acknowledgments     253
Notes     255
Bibliography     259
Index     263
About the Authors     271

Recipe

"Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap is a welcome addition to the literature on co-dependency. The Weinholds are expert clinicians. Their offering is crucial for establishing the legitimacy of co-dependency as a true life-threatening clinical entity. . . The greatest sense of hope in this book results from the precise and practical tools for recovery that the Weinholds present us.”
— from the foreword by John Bradshaw, author of Healing the Shame That Binds You

“Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap is written with clarity, caring, and a strong vision of realistic and healthy alternatives. It is a tremendously important tool for personal as well as social transformation. I recommend it highly.”
— Riane Eisler, author of The Chalice and the Blade