2018 Best Book Award Winner
"Compassionate. Comforting. Readers will see themselves on every page." - Paul Casale, Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage & Family Therapist
Loss is painful. Separation hurts. We need comfort.
Oblivious to our suffering, the world around us speeds on as if nothing happened. Stunned, shocked, sad, confused, and angry, we blink in disbelief. The pain can be immense.
We look for comfort. We long for it. Grieving hearts need it to survive.
Multiple award-winning author, hospice chaplain, and grief counselor Gary Roe has become a trusted voice to many hurting, grieving hearts. Written with heartfelt compassion, this easy-to-read, warm, and practical book reads like a caring conversation with a friend and is destined to become a classic for those looking for hope and encouragement in times of loss.
Whether you've lost a spouse, child, parent, sibling, relative, or friend, Gary's desire is to meet you in your grief and walk with you there. Composed of brief chapters, Comfort for Grieving Hearts is designed to be read one chapter per day, giving you bite-sized bits of comfort, encouragement, and healing over a period of time. You do not have to read it this way, of course. We all grieve differently. Read in the way that is most natural for you.
In Comfort for Grieving Hearts, you will find peace and comfort in...
- Processing complicated grief emotions (sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, guilt, anxiety, depression, feeling overwhelmed, etc).
- Navigating feeling alone, misunderstood, and even rejected by those around you.
- Handling the increased stress and uncertainty that heavy loss can bring.
- Dealing with physical and mental health issues, illnesses, and new symptoms that often arise.
- Taking care of yourself through diet, hydration, fitness, and rest.
- Thinking through the challenging spiritual and faith questions that frequently surface.
- Relating well to the people around you - those who are helpful and those who aren't.
- Overcoming the tendency to run from emotional pain with unhealthy habits or compulsive behaviors.
- Finding the support you need for survival, recovery, and healing (safe people, fellow grievers, counseling, etc.).
- Developing a simple, realistic plan for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays.
- Using your grief for good - for yourself, your family, and others.
- Allowing this loss to give you greater perspective and motivate you to live more effectively than ever before.
- Making your life count, one day, one moment at a time.
Please don't grieve alone. Let Comfort for Grieving Hearts join you on this arduous, tasking journey. Be kind to yourself. Take your heart seriously.
Death has invaded, but it doesn't have to win. Read on. Comfort awaits you in these pages of this book.
About the Author
The author of numerous books, Gary has been featured by Focus on the Family, Dr. Laura, Beliefnet, the Christian Broadcasting Network, Wellness.com, ThriveGlobal, Charisma, Hospice Times, Hitched, The Parenting Bookmark, and other major media and has well over 600 grief-related articles in print. Recipient of the Diane Duncam Award for Excellence in Hospice Care, Gary is a popular keynote, conference, and seminar speaker at a wide variety of venues. A former college minister, missionary in Japan, entrepreneur in Hawaii, and pastor in Texas and Washington, he now serves as a writer, speaker, and grief counselor.
Gary loves being a husband and father. He has seven adopted children, including three daughters from Colombia. He enjoys hockey, corny jokes, good puns, and colorful Hawaiian shirts. Gary and his wife Jen and family live in Texas.
Visit Gary at garyroe.com.
Table of Contents
What This Book Is All About
My Heart Is Shaking
You Were Just Here
Here Come The Tears, Again
How Could This Happen?
Everything Seems Different Now
I Keep Asking The Same Questions
I Don’t Understand
I Don’t Know How To Do This
I Feel Empty
Everyone Wants Me To Feel Better
I’m Forgetting Things
I’m Not Sleeping Well
I Take One Step Forward And Two Steps Back
Where Did Everyone Go?
I Can’t Get Enough Air
I Feel Guilty
The Guilt List Has No End
Please Forgive Me
Surely Someone Could Have Done Something
I Have More Questions Than I Thought
I’m Not The Same
I Feel Like A Shadow
Missing You Is Exhausting
I’m Not Fine
How Much More Am I Going To Lose?
People Don’t Get It
Missing You Is Making Me Sick
Why Do People Try To Fix The Unfixable?
I Feel Vulnerable
I Miss Your Voice
My Soul Is Leaking
I Feel Trapped Sometimes
Can’t They See I’m Hurting?
Where Have All The Listeners Gone?
I Want To Lay Blame Somewhere
I’m In Control Of So Little
Nothing Seems To Matter
I’m Getting Tired Of Faking It
I Miss Everything
Why Do People Say Such Things?
I Don’t Like This New Life
I’m Missing The Future
I’m Tired Of Grief
Silence, Listening Ears, And A Hug Can Do Wonders
I Had No Idea
Get Over You? Impossible.
I Feel You Slipping Away
I’ll Never Forget You, Will I?
I Must Talk About You
I’m Tired Of Being Afraid
I Thought I Was Better
I Dread Special Days
I Need To Be Real
My Heart Is Changing
I Didn’t Know What I Didn’t Know
Words Are Crucial — And Overrated
I Will Use My Grief For Good
Perhaps Letting Go Isn’t What I Thought
My Grief Is Changing
I’m Small, But I Matter
I’m Swimming Upstream
Triggers Are Everywhere
It Will Be Hard, But It Can Still Be Good
One Day At A Time
I Want To Live Today As Best I Can
Concluding Thoughts: A Personal Perspective On Loss, Grief, And Emotional Pain
An Invitation To Make A Difference
Summary Of Grief Affirmations
A Request From The Author
About The Author
An Urgent Plea