Dammit, Just Ask!: THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET MORE OUT OF LIFE AND BUSINESS

by J. Paul Nadeau

Overview

Dammit, Just Ask!
The Essential Guide to Getting More Out of Life and Business
By J. Paul Nadeau

What if you could ask for anything-with confidence-and dramatically increase the chances of hearing "yes"? In Dammit, Just Ask!, former hostage negotiator and international peacekeeper J. Paul Nadeau reveals the negotiation strategies that saved lives, closed business deals, and changed the trajectory of personal relationships.

More than a business book, this is a guide to living with purpose, courage, and strategy. Drawing on decades of high-stakes experience, Nadeau introduces his PIER method-Planning, Intent, Engagement, and Relationship-to equip readers with a framework that turns fear and hesitation into influence and connection. Whether you're negotiating a raise, resolving conflict, landing a client, or trying to improve your daily interactions, this book will show you how to lead with empathy and close with confidence.

Much like Chris Voss's Never Split the Difference, this book demystifies negotiation-but where Voss teaches tactical tools, Dammit, Just Ask! goes deeper, showing you how to build trust, ask with authenticity, and make every conversation count.

Whether you're a seasoned professional or someone who's just tired of settling for less, Dammit, Just Ask! will inspire you to speak up, stand tall, and get what you deserve-because the first step to winning... is asking.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780994848222
Publisher:	J. Paul Nadeau
Publication date:	06/13/2025
Pages:	350
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.73(d)

About the Author

J. Paul Nadeau is a former hostage negotiator, international peacekeeper, and decorated police detective who spent over 30 years in law enforcement, including 15 years as a crisis and criminal interrogator. He served on the front lines of some of the world’s most volatile conflicts—from negotiating with terrorists in the Middle East to de-escalating life-and-death standoffs in Canada.

Paul has interrogated murderers, rapists, and criminals of every kind—and yet, his philosophy has always remained the same: everyone matters. His approach to negotiation is rooted in empathy, psychology, and strategic influence—skills that helped him not only save lives, but also build bridges where none existed.

A global keynote speaker and media contributor, Paul has appeared on major news outlets and was featured by Vanity Fair analyzing the accuracy of hostage negotiation scenes in Hollywood films. He’s delivered TEDx talks, addressed global audiences on conflict resolution, mental wellness, and negotiation, and coached CEOs, entrepreneurs, and everyday professionals in how to ask for what they want—and get it.

Paul is the author of multiple books, including Take Control of Your Life and The Hostage Effect. His work has been compared to that of Chris Voss and Gary Noesner, but with a deeper focus on human connection and psychological insight. He doesn’t teach manipulation—he teaches communication that leads to real influence and trust.

Paul lives in Toronto, Canada, and continues to speak, write, and act. His mission is to empower people to break free from self-doubt, master the ask, and create positive change in their personal and professional lives.