Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies

Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies

by Marta Felber

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Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies by Marta Felber

If you have suffered the death of your spouse, you have experienced one of the most painful and disorienting experiences life can offer. In the days immediately following the loss, you may need everything from advice on finances to a home-cooked meal. But there is nothing you need more than the warm, reassuring voice of one who has traveled this path before and survived.

In Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, Marta Felber offers just such a voice--caring, hopeful, always pointing ahead to a tomorrow that will be a little easier than today. Having experienced her own spouse's death, Felber is never glib or simplistic. She knows the grief her readers are feeling, and she encourages them to give it full expression. At the same time, she offers sound, practical suggestions on how to navigate difficult days.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780877939320
Publisher: Ave Maria Press
Publication date: 03/28/2000
Series: Finding Your Way Series
Edition description: Revised
Pages: 162
Sales rank: 106,659
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.37(d)

Table of Contents

1.Open the Door10
2.Create Your Own "Comfort Place"12
3.Build a Support Network14
4.Accept the Crying16
5.Ask for a Hug18
6.Deepen Your Faith20
7.Recognize Denial22
8.Start a Journal24
9.Benefit From Meditation26
10.Schedule a Physical Check-Up28
11.Walk Each Day30
12.Eat Regularly and Well32
13.Appreciate the Straight Stretches34
14.Organize for Early Tasks36
15.Prepare for the Night38
16.Greet the Day40
17.Ignore Certain Messages42
18.Give Positive Feedback44
19.Postpone Some Decisions46
20.Get a Grip on Finances48
21.Get Off the Treadmill50
22.Assume Control52
23.Make Home Yours54
24.Visualize and Plan Ahead56
25.Prepare for Celebrations58
26.Comfort Your Younger Children60
27.Share This Loss With Your Grown Children62
28.Welcome the Unexpected64
29.Venture Out Alone66
30.Employ the Wisdom of a "Worry Box"68
31.Improve Lonely and Alone Times70
32.Focus Your Grief72
33.Relieve That Day74
34.Write a Letter76
35.End the Play78
36.Picture the Person and Feel the Spirit80
37.Maintain Inner Communication82
38.Live in the Present84
39.Acknowledge the Imperfections86
40.Attend to Unresolved Grief88
41.Forgive and Find Peace90
42.Let Nature Heal92
43.Resolve the Guilt94
44.Face Your Fears96
45.Express Your Anger98
46.Sort Through Your Loved One's Belongings100
47.Recognize the Special Challenges Men Face102
48.Find a Support Group104
49.Share the Grief of Others--But Don't Be Overwhelmed106
50.Celebrate a Birthday108
51.Choose to Fulfill110
52.Create Memorials112
53.Begin to Play (Again)114
54.Volunteer and Help Others116
55.Enter the Internet118
56.Generate Some Laughter120
57.Look in the Mirror122
58.Consider Your Wedding Ring124
59.Proceed Slowly With Dating126
60.Contemplate Remarriage128
61.Measure Growth and Accomplishments130
62.Take Stock and Set Goals132
63.Seek Additional Help134
64.A Note From the Author136
Resources138
Where to Find ...151

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Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
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Statistically, almost half of us can expect to outlive our spouses, usually as widows. The better the marriage . . . the greater the loss can be. Even losing a loved one after a troubled marriage can be a trial as you deal with loneliness and unaccustomed challenges and responsibilities. While many people can advise us about how to handle the legal, financial, and etiquette issues involved, only someone who has lost a much-loved spouse can help us deal with the emotional issues and grieving process. We are fortunate that Ms. Marta Felber has accumulated her experiences into a guide for us all. Finding Your Way after Your Spouse Dies is divided 63 brief ¿step by step¿ perspectives on the situations that you will face. While each one has a number of good suggestions, you will probably find much of your comfort in the brief prayer designed to capture the spirit of each one, and in the Old and New Testament Bible readings selected to accompany the prayer. I liked the advice. It calls for facing up to grief, but also reaching out for comfort, advice, and to new beginnings when you are ready. The book is especially helpful in building observations to help deal with painful milestones, like one year after the spouse¿s death, birthdays, your anniversary, and going out to do someone alone that you used to do with a spouse. The book also has many references to other books and resource groups that will help you refind the beauty of God¿s love and world. There¿s a delicate balance between being supportive and lecturing, between sharing and demanding a certain reaction, and between describing an experience and wallowing in its misery. Ms. Felber has the good taste and judgment to hit these balances just right, so you are experiencing with her rather than feeling her loss added to your own. Nicely done! As I read this book, I also thought about how people who have not lost a spouse should read this book in order to be more helpful to people who have. Be sure to give your hugs, love, and friendship in supportive ways! Donald Mitchell, co-author of The 2,000 Percent Solution and The Irresistible Growth Enterprise