Ask yourself: * Do you believe that the other person is responsible for how you feel? * Do their actions seem like a complete mystery? * Are you ready to stop feeling angry or upset? * Do you still feel hurt or sad? * Are you ready to re-build the trust within this relationship? * Have you made the decision to forgive? * Are you haunted by something you said or did to another?
If you answered YES to more than one of these questions, then this book is for you! How To Forgive will assist you in unraveling the past and help you to let go of the feelings which are holding you back. Forgiveness is a choice, but to forgive is not always easy. In fact, many people who would like to let go of anger and forgive are stumped with the question of how to forgive. This step-by-step guide will help you acknowledge your emotions and deal with the issues those emotions identify.
"Lynda Bevan offers an important contribution to the clarification of this emotionallyloaded term: 'forgiveness'. She offers a taxonomy of misdeeds and issues that require forgiveness and then proceeds with guidance on how to tackle and defuse these situations and even turn them around in one's favor. Bevan thus transforms forgiveness from a mere ethical or moral requirement to a pragmatic approach to the management of anger, pain, and abuse. I have rarely encountered so much useful content packed into so little a space: this book is a veritable energy drink!" --Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited
By the author of the #1 Bestseller: "Life Without Jealousy"
Book #5 in the 10-Step Empowerment Series -- Learn more at www.LyndaBevan.com
Lynda Bevan lives in a picturesque village in South Wales, United Kingdom. She is 59 years of age, married for the third time, with three (adult) children. During her teens and early twenties, she pursued and enjoyed acting and taught drama at local Youth Centers.
Her 22-year career has involved working in the area of mental health, with the two major care agencies in the UK, Social Services and the National Health Service. After the birth of her third child, and with her second marriage ending, she became employed by Social Services and climbed through the ranks to senior management level with some speed.
During her career with Social Services, she developed a passion for counseling and psychotherapy and worked extensively with mental health patients within the organization, setting up counseling projects in Healthcare Centers. The task was to tackle the issue of doctors who inappropriately referred patients to Psychiatric Hospitals for therapy when they had experienced events that arise in normal everyday life, e.g., divorce, anxiety, depression, bereavement, stress, loss of role. It was during this time that she became involved in marital/relationship counseling and, coincidentally, was experiencing difficulties within her own relationship. The experience of working in this environment, and her own relationship issues, enabled Lynda to be innovative; creating methods of coping and developing strategies that enabled her and her patients to live within their problematic relationships.
These strategies were devised and offered to patients who had clearly identified that they did not want to separate or proceed with the divorce process. After taking early retirement from Social Services, she became employed by the National Health Service as a Counselor in the Primary Healthcare Setting. During this period in her career, she began using the strategies she had developed with patients who were referred for relationship counseling and who did not want to end their partnership/marriage. These strategies have been used extensively over a ten-year period with impressive results.
Lynda is presently employed as a Manager of a charity that supports people who are HIV positive. She is also the Resident Relationship Counselor on Swansea Sound Radio.