Does your fear of flying make travel with friends and family impossible? Are you having trouble coping with the loss of a loved one or forgiving yourself for a mistake you made long ago? For the millions of people who suffer from phobias, anxieties, or distressing emotions such as anger, guilt, and grief, the breakthrough science of Thought Field Therapy—an easy-to-use practice often referred to as “acupressure for the emotions”—can make a remarkable difference. In this groundbreaking book, psychologists Peter Lambrou and George Pratt make their highly successful techniques available to everyone through simple exercises that anyone can use to treat everyday emotional roadblocks with immediate and permanent results.
A blend of Western psychotherapy and Chinese medicine, Thought Field Therapy (or TFT) uses the body’s meridian energy systems to treat emotional issues that can take years to unravel through traditional, talk-based therapy. A combination of breathing and relaxation exercises, affirmations, and tapping on specific pressure points on the body, TFT can instantly eliminate problems such as a fear of flying or public speaking, addictive urges, or painful emotions such as embarrassment or regret. Used on thousands of people with a 95 percent success rate, the step-by-step methods in Instant Emotional Healing now allow you to master this amazingly simple, astonishingly effective practice for yourself—and open the door to a lifetime of emotional control and well-being.
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Could This Be Magic?
A Vietnam vet, sole survivor and sole witness to the death of his entire squad during a fierce jungle battle, tormented by survivor's guilt.
A college senior, distraught over the breakup with his high school sweetheart, on the verge of flunking out.
A prominent NFL player wanting to improve his game performance.
A four-year-old girl, jealous and threatened by her new adopted brother.
A highly successful sixty-six-year-old executive who has lived his life under a cloud of depression and self-recrimination since accidentally shooting his best friend when he was sixteen.
A woman dangerously postponing an operation because she is too frightened to have the surgery.
A young lawyer whose boyfriend's slovenly habits are driving her up the wall.
A man with a history of panic attacks, dreading seeing his father at his upcoming wedding after many years of not speaking.
What do these seemingly diverse people have in common? All of them experienced immediate and lasting relief from their troubles, many after years of painful suffering, using the techniques of Emotional Self-Management--ESM.
True Tales of ESM
Does the idea that you can instantly get over your fears or your sadness, that you could feel more relaxed and balanced in your everyday life, sound too good to be true? Well, we mean exactly what the title says: instant emotional healing. When you master the skills presented in this book, you will be able to heal, often in one session, long-standing, troubling issues from your past: grief over a divorce, a phobia about freeway driving, a long-festering anger over a business deal gone sour. You will have a set of tools to help you immediately handle the day-to-day stresses of your life: a bumper-to-bumper commute, a critical boss, the remodeling of your kitchen, your anxiety about paying the bills or the presentation you have to make at work next week. You will work more productively and perform at a higher level.
Instant healing? Even from lifelong problems? From fear and anxiety, anger and jealousy and phobias? These seem like extraordinary claims. But all of the people mentioned earlier were treated in our offices, typically in one to three sessions. To give you an idea of how the methods of ESM can be used for a wide variety of emotional issues, from minor irritations to major traumas, we are going to share with you a few cases drawn from our experiences. (Names and incidental details have been changed to protect the confidentiality of our clients.)
Nearly three weeks after he escaped his kidnappers, Gunther continued to be withdrawn and frightened. When he arrived at my office, he seemed like a broken young man, his shoulders hunched into the upturned collar of his leather jacket, his eyes darting nervously around the room. Nightmares plagued his sleep; he was unable to leave the house without breaking into a cold sweat. It had been a horrific ordeal for the whole family, as they worried about Gunther and negotiated the terms and logistics of the sizable ransom for his release with the nervous and off-balance kidnappers. By the time Gunther came to see me, I had already treated his mother and sister for their own stress and sleeplessness. "How often do I have to come here?" he asked. "I don't know how many times I can come back." At first I thought Gunther was so disoriented that he was worried about the expense that his family would incur. But, I soon learned, he was terrified of being taken captive again. When I told him that what was upsetting him now would be gone by the time he left in the next hour, he didn't believe me.
We quickly went through the protocol for trauma, repeating the sequence for a couple of particularly terrifying memories of his time in captivity. He recalled the day when his skittish and alcohol-fueled captors bound and blindfolded him and moved him from place to place four times in the trunk of a car; a morning when they thought they were being tricked by Gunther's family and threatened to kill him right then and there. By the end of the session Gunther's whole demeanor had changed. He relaxed in his chair, where before he had been stiff and watchful. For the first time, he was able to speak about his ordeal without his heart pounding. Although still subdued, he smiled and thanked me.
The Gunther who returned to see me a few days later seemed like a different person. He was again the confident and renowned financier, making plans for a major new project. The nightmares had not returned since the first treatment. He reported that since our meeting, after the weeks of stoicism since he escaped his captors, he finally had been able to cry. He had spent many hours during the past few days talking with his family; they learned every detail of his captivity, and they told him about their ordeal and their fear for his life when it looked like the ransom dropoff had been botched.
There was more healing work ahead for Gunther and for his family. We continued to work together for three more sessions, as the layers of guilt, fear, and anger surfaced. But Gunther was himself again. He was no longer being held prisoner by feelings and memories that were blocked from his awareness.
A business friend sent his secretary to us for help. For three years Amanda had been unable to get over her breakup with a boyfriend who had left her for another woman. She thought about him obsessively and found it nearly impossible to concentrate at work. (Hence the recommendation from her boss.) She wasn't dating and slept poorly due to recurrent dreams about her lost love. In the past year she had become progressively reclusive and depressed. In short, Amanda was suffering from a broken heart.
I taught Amanda how to self-administer a simple sequence of tapping on specific meridian points while she focused on her problem. (That was easy for her to do.) I watched as Amanda's anxiety level dropped, and her jaw relaxed. Within a few minutes she said, "I feel like a weight has been lifted off me. I haven't been able to stop thinking about him for three years."
Amanda called the next day to report that she still felt as good as she had in the office, and she'd gotten a good night's sleep for the first time in a very long while. A week later she called again to say, "I can hardly believe it. I feel like I've gotten my life back again. I don't know what happened, but I'm not thinking about him like I was. In fact, I can't understand now why I was so obsessed. He was really a jerk. Thank you for helping me live again."
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This book is changing my life since finding it in February 2009--It is AMAZING!!! For instance, just yesterday I was feeling generally sad and could not figure out why. I did the treatment for sadness and discovered the reason was caused by alot of unresolved guilt stemming back to 1993 when I told my first boyfriend I had to break up with him and move back to my home state! He cried so hard and I felt terrible! I have been living with intense guilt all these years but didn't realize it. I then applied the treatment for the release of guilt and now it's totally gone! Something that had been haunting me behind the scenes for 17 years was gone within about 1 hour. I have also released resentments toward my step-father for an abusive upbringing, resentments held from being bullied in school, emotional trauma from finding out my trust had been broken by my significant other--the list goes on and on. And the most wonderful thing is happening! The more I let go of each piece of baggage/hang-up, the real ME is emerging; the ME I would have been if I did not have so many emotional blows. I am becoming more and more upbeat, joyful, light-hearted, playful, enthusiastic, and thankful for seemingly no reason. I LOVE THIS BOOK!!!!! If you can't remember the last time you felt really good inside, you need the techniques from Instant Emotional Healing. Rob
I was having problems with rage and sadness due to longstanding problems in my life. My problems would roll around in my head while I analyzed every aspect but could never find a solution. My marriage was suffering, I couldn't fully love my children, and I began feeling physical pain in my heart. I've finished only chapter 4, did the exercises, and my chest pain is gone. For two days my problems aren't dominating my inner life. It's a miracle! Thank you Dr. Lambrou and Dr. Pratt!!!!!!!!
Having read a zillion self-help books over the years, I have to admit that this is the single most useful self-help book I have ever read. I have purchased about ten copies of this book and passed them out to friends and family members. By the use of the techniques described in the book, I have eliminated long-standing emotional sore spots in my life. And, just for fun, I removed my life-long fear of touching and holding lizards, spiders (yes, I can actually hold a tarantula in my hand!) and snakes. Also, in about five minutes, I helped my niece get over her apprehensive feelings regarding starting high school. I don¿t know anyone who does not occasionally struggle to combat feelings that are not amenable to logical reasoning. This book clearly explains the simple and easy-to-memorize procedures that can completely eliminate such disturbing feelings. It is also an interesting book to read -- when I first purchased a copy, I couldn't put it down. That copy is now dog-eared, marked-up and definitely USED.
My daughter is an ADHD teenager whose basic rage was destroying our family. Any parenting limits enraged her. She knew she was out of control, she wanted help but years of medicine and therapy could not change her rage. Luckily we live close to one of the authors and in 1 visit her rage vitually disappeared. Instead of rage over putting limits on a car and limits coming home, she was able to say I don't like the limits rather than how dare you give them to me. The session allowed her to forgive herself and move on. The technique is easy and will have to be applied until she internalizes it, but she can do it mostly herself. I am grateful.
Want self-empowerment? You'll get it here!!! I will be using this information as primary reference in use with a proven healing acupressure gold +/- pen set to stimulate even more powerful results. I know they will be a perferct marriage. Can't wait to report results!
I WAS FORTUNATE TO ATTEND SEMINARS LED BY THESE TWO GENTLEMAN AND WAS TOTALLY IMPRESSED BY THE WORK THEY ARE DOING AND THEIR ATTITUDE IN WORKING WITH PEOPLE. I HAVE BEEN USING THESE TECHNIQUES SINCE THE DAY THE BOOK CAME OUT AND HAVE BEEN OVERWHELMED BY THE RELIEF THIS METHOD OFFERS AND THE SPEED AT WHICH IT OCCURS. I HAVE SENT THIS BOOK TO MY CHILDREN, CLOSE FRIENDS AND RELATIVES SO THAT EVERYONE CAN BENEFIT FROM THIS FABULOUS NEW METHOD AT EMOTIONAL RELIEF. THIS SHOULD TRULY CHANGE THE ENTIRE FIELD OF PSYCHOTHERAPY AND SHOULD DO AWAY WITH THE DRUGGING OF AMERICA THAT IS CURRENTLY HAPPENING. THE TECHNIQUES ARE SIMPLE AND CAN BE DONE ANYWHERE BY YOU YOURSELF--NO WONDER THE SHRINKS ARE COMPLAINING!