Letting Go of the Need to Be Right: Experience the Power of Humility

by Jeff Dollar, Danny Silk (Foreword by)

Overview

“I’m sorry you feel that way.”
—Anyone who’s mastered the fauxpology

We all struggle to admit fault. We defend ourselves, talk more than listen, or find flaws in the messenger to dismiss the message. These habits build walls and leave us estranged and disconnected.

Letting Go of the Need to Be Right is an invitation to recognize issues that impede personal growth and hinder relationships.

You will learn how to:

• pursue what is right, not who is right.
• be mindful of your motives.
• allow for creativity and collaboration.
• celebrate others instead of stealing the spotlight.

We are called to be lifelong learners and servants. When we let go of the need to be right, the pressure to know it all, have it all, and be it all lose their power over us, and we are free to fulfill our calling in God.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781424549900
Publisher:	BroadStreet Publishing Group, LLC
Publication date:	02/05/2019
Pages:	176
Sales rank:	937,367
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

JEFF DOLLAR is the senior pastor of Grace Center and the cofounder in the School of Supernatural Life in Franklin, Tennessee. He has spent more than twenty years leading people into the presence of God to find the wisdom of God. Jeff and his wife, Becky, live near Nashville with their two children.

Table of Contents

Dedication 6

Acknowledgments 7

Foreword 8

Introduction 10

1 The Beginning of False Knowledge 15

2 A Metamorphosis 21

3 Working from Both Sides of the Desk 25

4 How to Fail at Business without Really Trying 31

5 Dark Days Ahead 35

6 The Dawn 39

7 God's Gift 43

8 Married with Children 47

9 Letting Others Win 51

10 Dealing with Your Two Percent 59

11 The Big Question 65

12 The Aftershock 77

13 Celebration, Not Competition 85

14 Avoiding Self-Promotion 97

15 Two Rights Don't Make a Wrong 105

16 Ring of Power 119

17 Enter the Messengers 133

18 Perils of Unbelief 143

19 The Place of Testing 153

20 Be Careful How You Listen 163

21 A Testimony of Letting Go 173

About the Author 176

Editorial Reviews

Foreword:
So much about leadership is confidence and discernment. It’s about knowing why you are doing something and knowing when to do it. Did you do the right thing? Was it the right timing? Did you move too quickly? Did you delay too long? Leadership is often a risky role. It requires confidence and certainty. As leaders, we have to practice intentional, determined posture day in and day out; nothing less will serve our people well.

Confidence is our belief that God can and will accomplish what He has called us to do in life. The result of confident leadership is momentum. We build strength in our own voices, and we develop internal rigidity. We start to trust our own voices, so much so that we begin to bolster our own opinions and desires as more valuable than the opinions and desires of others. And because we have such confidence in our consistency, we naturally create a culture of trusting our personal strengths: “This company (family, organization, church) is successful because of my rightness.” To challenge a leader’s rightness is to challenge their success and to serve disloyally toward the strongest part of the organization: its leadership.

No one wins with an insecure, hesitant leader, but equally unsuccessful is the leader who is impervious to input or feedback. The counterbalance to great confidence is equal parts humility. By humility, I mean paying attention to and learning how other people experience us. We make it a priority to gain this information. Strong, mature leaders welcome input from those around them. They’ve slayed their inner dragons that rise up at threats of opposing views. They’ve learned to honor perspectives they have not yet considered, and leaders incorporate information gleaned from others when making their decisions. These types of leaders are learning, growing, and gaining new information on purpose—every day. We really do not have accurate information about what goes on inside the hearts and minds of other people until we welcome it—until we ask. Today, a willingness to be receptive is an important leadership quality and skill—perhaps now more than ever. 

We also benefit from having a receptive attitude because it informs us on how to make key adjustments in relationships, conversations, and decisions. Our rightness is more accurate than ever because our information is cleaner and more accurate than ever. Being right doesn’t have to be sacrificed, but the need to be the one who is right has got to go.

Jeff Dollar has written a book that I think will help anyone who serves in a leadership role. Speaking from personal experience and showing us what and how to change, Jeff is both humorous and inspirational. He is a successful leader who invites you on a personal journey of growing from the inside out. I’m happy to introduce to you Letting Go of the Need to Be Right, and I highly recommend it to you! Get out your pen, paper, highlighter, favorite beverage, and something to dry your eyes with because it is a hilarious adventure!

Danny Silk
President of Loving On Purpose Life Academy
Author of Keep Your Love On, Powerful & Free and Business of Honor

Danny Silk