Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages

Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages

by Robin L. Smith
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Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages by Robin L. Smith

Dr. Robin Smith advises couples on how to take the wedding vows that were made in earnest and in innocence, to a level where they can be used to build a happy, healthy, satisfying and long-lasting marriage. Lies at the Altar is for couples who are planning marriage, are newly married, or who have been married for years.

In Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages, Dr. Robin Smith addresses the unspoken needs, unasked questions, outrageous expectations, and hidden agendas that often linger beneath the surface of the wedding vows and appear later to cause power struggles, suffering, and feelings of hopelessness in marriages.

Dr. Smith discusses why it’s important to have one’s "eyes wide open" in a marriage; how to write true vows to live by; and why it’s never too late to rewrite your vows. She illustrates her advice with detailed stories from her own life, as well as from couples that she has counseled. And in her inspiring conclusion, she invites couples to light up their lives by acknowledging each other as individuals, each of whom lights a candle, and who lights a third candle which represents "us."

Calling “truth” the secret ingredient of great marriages, Dr. Smith teaches individuals and couples how to find the truth within themselves and their partners, whether they are heading to the altar, suffering in an unhappy marriage, divorced, or simply want to bring more satisfaction and intimacy into their relationship.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781401308971
Publisher: Hachette Books
Publication date: 04/10/2007
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 238,513
Product dimensions: 8.82(w) x 5.64(h) x 0.60(d)
Age Range: 13 - 18 Years

About the Author

Dr. Robin Smith is a licensed psychologist, television personality and author, who appears regularly as an expert for The Oprah Winfrey Show. In addition to her private practice, Dr. Smith teaches as an adjunct professor at Eastern Baptist Theological Seminary. She lives in Philadelphia.

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Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages 4.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 44 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I loved this book it is a wonderful guide. My only regret was that I didn't find it before I got married! Anyone, whether you are married, about to be married, or single needs to read this book. Take it from me, the author is right, you can't afford to settle. Know what you want and don't ever compromise it for a minute. If you do it will end up destroying your marriage. If your marriage is in trouble and you and your partner truly have the desire to turn it around this would be an excellent resource for you.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Good book for married couples or ones ready to get married. It is information that deep down in side we all know but for Dr.Robin to tell it to you just seems to make more sense.. I got the audio book and it was great. Kept me interested and helped me to see some of the faults in my own situation.
Guest More than 1 year ago
it is a best book i have read on this topic! it is so insightfull and honest that it really toches and teaches you truths you should have known about your self. this book is an excellent guide on how to get un-stuck in your marriage and how to recognise things that should be avoided by those how want a strong and healthy bond.
Guest More than 1 year ago
The Truth About Great Marriages isn't the kind of book I normally read. Normally, I read sci-fi and fantasy like Robert Stanek's Ruin Mist Chronicles. But since I got serious with my guy I've been thinking more about what if stuff, like what if he's really the one. I know I'm too young to get married, but I girl has got to dream and since my auntie was reading The Truth About Great Marriages I decided to read it too. This book blew my mind and set me straight. My eyes are wide open now.
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mrsc30 More than 1 year ago
the book was good. once you get married you realiz that these are good questions but its too late for us. for those looking to get married, these are great and essential questions to ask. i wouldn't classify it as a must read but if you dont know what to ask your mate prior to marriage, this book offers great ice breakers.
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This a great book to read if you are in a relationship or not
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I finally read this book when my marriage was in the middle of a crisis...and believe me, if you are true to yourself, to your partner, but most of all...to your relationship...it will help you get out of the hole you feel you are in. I particularly loved her honest and vivid approach of examplifying her life. I specially loved the way she bombarded the many cliches we believe that marriage should be like. Marriage is not a war...I understand that now. As a woman, her advice will help you brake with the antique norms of that because you are one, you have to take everything that is thrown at you...with a smile. She encourages you to have self worth, self value...self love. I love the underlying message that you are not your husband. The way our world turns today, where people go with the flow of what is expected, despite your personal needs and wants...her constant message is clear: the truth will bring you and your partner redemption...from yourself and from each other. Read it and tell every woman you know about it. I have given a copy to each of my closest friends.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book and it changed my life. I am a married 21 year old mother of two children. My marriage was falling through the cracks after two years. I was actually repeating my parents marriage, and did not realize it. The only way it saved my marriage was by the willingness to cooperate of my husband. Without that, it won't work. Well, I was apprehensive to take her advice. Until I heard her say the reason she's not married. By the time she had figured out how a marriage works, she had already been in a realtionship that was no where near the truth. Its hard to take a step back and fix whats been broken for so many years. Especially if you or your partner is not ready or willing to comprehend how a marriage should work, or meet you half way to ensure happiness on either side. Basically, there was too much damage for them to proceed to fix it. I really understand. My parents have been divorced for years and have had failed relationships after failed relationships. The reason because it is due to the pain that they carry with themselves of their past relationships into new ones. Like saying 'This has happened to me and it's not going to in this relationship' rather than letting go of prior unresloved mishaps and focusing on what the persent realtionship needs to continue. So, basically just letting their pain and the ways that they've been hurt be in the driver seat of their lives. If there was some way to go back and undo the hurt and damage done, my parents maybe could somehow, someway be together again. It's due to the damage that they can't be close. The love is still there, but buried underneath years and years of not knowing exactly what they want or who they are, or even giving room for each other to do so. My mother never said anything when her feeling were hurt and my father had no idea how she felt because of it. My father was heart broken over the divorce and bitter. My mother was heartbroken over the failure of my father to recognize with her what it would take to make them happy together. And it would mean them stepping out of thier comfort zones. Well, in the end I would like to thank Dr. Smith for restoring my ambition to be a psychologist. Maybe somehow someway I can find a way to fix whats broken in my family. I just don't think the confidence in myself is there. The damage has already been done. What's the worst that could happen? I recommend this book for anyone any age. I think it helps you to know really what you want. I let my friend borrow it and her dog ate it. How nice, huh? Some people are not ready for it and some embrace it as a blessing.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is phenomenal. I finished it last night and am going to start it again today. I read it too fast because there is so much truth in it...things just kept clicking and the pages kept turning. I am going to read it a second time to take notes and then give it to my ex-fiance. We were engaged for 8 months before we mutually decided to take space from each other. I was devasted with the failure of my relationship and was given the book by my sister. I haven't failed we as a couple have succeeded because we are not going to add to the divorce statistics. The book is a proclamation of the truths behind marriage...and not the fairy tale. It is a must read for single people, engaged people and married people. Pass on to everyone you know.
Guest More than 1 year ago
No doubt Robin has some great ideas, information, tips, etc in her book that many people could benefit from. But I could not get past one, for me, major thing, she is not married and from what I could tell has not been married for quite some time. I adhere to the take my advice because I am using it and living it premise not the take my advice because I think it might work. Given the divorce rate these days married people might want to read books by people who are in successful marriages.