The grief and recovery classic fully revised and updated
Loss is overwhelming. After a loved one's death, a divorce, an injury or disease, or another major life change, recovery often seems daunting, if not impossible. Life after Loss is the go-to resource for anyone who has suffered a major loss. With great compassion and insight, Bob Deits provides essential wisdom and practical exercises for navigating the uncertain terrain of grief and recovery. Now in its sixth edition, this guide is fully updated with new advice on catastrophic losses, guidance on using technology to foster connections and maintain support networks, and reflections from Deits' ongoing counseling and his firsthand experiences. After a destabilizing change, Life after Loss helps you to find positive ways to put together a life that is necessarily differentbut equally meaningful.
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About the Author
Bob Deits, B.A. in Psychology and M.Th. in Pastoral Psychology, has been involved in pastoral counseling for nearly three decades, has conducted grief support groups since 1982, and lectures extensively. He lives in Mesa, Arizona.
Table of Contents
1 Loss and the Mourning After: A Universal Human Experience 1
2 First Responses to a Major Loss: When Your Worst Fears Become Real 13
3 Sudden Loss or Prolonged Loss: There Is No Easy Way 35
4 Recovering Your Balance: Creating a New Normal Experience 51
5 Perception: The Key to Healing 63
6 Steps to Recovery: A Common Path to Wholeness 77
7 The Inward Search: Grief Is a Personal Experience 93
8 Four Key Facts about Grief: Building a Foundation for Recovery 101
9 Start Now!: Today Is a Better Day to Begin than Tomorrow 117
10 Grief and Growth: Growing through Loss 129
11 A Test of Endurance: Life after Loss Takes Determination and Time 139
12 Beliefs that Help or Hurt: The Use and Abuse of Religion 147
13 Quiet Losses: Private Struggles Grieved in Silence 167
14 Children and Grief: it's a Big Hurt for Little People, Too 183
15 Losses in Later Life: Tarnish on the Golden Years 195
16 Making New Discoveries: Beginning with Loss-Ending with Life 205
17 Significant Points along the Way: Mileposts on the Road to Recovery 215
18 Choosing to Live Again: Ways to Take Charge of Your Own Grief 225
19 Opening New Doors: Decisions that Make a Difference 243
20 Your Own Best Friend: Completing the Journey 263
21 Preparing for Loss: A New Dimension in Wholeness 277
Appendix A Words that Describe Feelings 285
Appendix B Forming a Support Group 289
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Next to the Dr Kubler-Ross book ON GRIEF AND GRIEVING, this has been the most helpful book I have read on the subject of grieving from a deep loss. The book gives the reader the permission to grieve that our larger society has often denied him. Emphasized over and over again is the theme that: "Going through the experience is the only lasting and healthy way out of grief." The book advises those who grieve: "Never apologize for grieving. Remind yourself as often as needed that the very worst kind of loss is always yours" and to "Learn to acknowledge that your loss is worthy of grief." The griever can further admit to himself: "The loss I experienced is a major event in my life. Perhaps it is the worst thing that will ever happen to me. But is not the end of my life. I can still have a full and rewarding life. Grief has taught me much, and I will use it to be a better person than I was before my loss." In this way those who grieve can be left a sense of hope, not to be forever devastated. The book concludes with some valuable appendices on the role of nutrition in grief recovery, words that describe feelings and information on how one can form their own support group. Not only was it deeply comforting to read this book, (I lost my own father to aortic stenosis five months ago) but I also can see where it could be immensely useful for mental health professionals to use in their practice. I have been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker employed by the Department of Defense for over twenty years most recently working with a number of those individuals who lost family members in Iraq. I can see suggesting they read this book themselves and it being of great comfort to them. I would strongly recommend this book to all who have suffered a significant loss in their life.
3 1/2 years after the loss of my husband, several books in my library regarding loss and grief and this is by far the best book written on the subject. I highly recommend it for anyone experiencing a loss of any magnitude be it spouse, love interest, job, placement. I found it extremely helpful.
Within two weeks after my husband died, two years ago, I purchased this book. This book was invaluable in explaining all of the physical, emotional, and mental experiences I was going through. Even though since the beginning of time people have lost loved ones, until it happens to you, the pain cannot be explained. This book gives concrete examples of how others have dealt with losing their loved one, the emotional roller coaster of grief, and what life will hold for you down the road. It has been a life saver for me, even today. You never "get over it", you just learn to live with it better.
a great book for anyone going thru a great loss, it's one you can put down then pick up and re-read again........