Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life

Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life

by Wendy Strgar

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Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide to Awakening Your Erotic Life by Wendy Strgar

Awaken Your Erotic Life

“Making sex work—embracing your erotic soul and deepening the intimacy in your life—is both a consequence of deep presence and its gift. Healing our selves in our deepest erotic space can only be a deliberate act, and the doing of it miraculously seems to heal everything else. Tapping into the courage to know your own deepest sexual thoughts and feelings, and offering them with your whole being, is both a life work and lasting gift that will be long remembered.” —Wendy Strgar, Sex That Works

If you and your partner have lost that special spark, here is a book with the power to save your sex life—and your relationship. Sex That Works invites you to experience a new level of feeling and a new level of freedom in your sexuality. Wendy Strgar offers healing insights, potent practices (for you alone and with your partner), and guidance drawn from her marriage of over 30 years and her work with thousands of people to encourage the full awakening and expression of your erotic life.

Nine core topics include:

Freedom

Taking responsibility for your sexual evolution • Healing our harmful behaviors • Claiming erotic freedom • Overcoming silence • Giving yourself permission • Finding forgiveness

Pleasure

Pleasure as a medium of communication • Restoring our humanity • Orgasm • Relaxing our judgments about sexuality • The many benefits of self-pleasure • Owning the pleasure response • Calling pleasure by its true name • Transcendent orgasms • Broadening our sexual vocabulary • Pleasure as a fountain of youth

Finding your normal

The universal uncertainty • Bridging the erotic with the rational • Putting sexual health in context • The Sexual Identity Grid • The malady of sexual dysfunction • Trusting our erotic nature • Beyond right and wrong

Courage

The gift of choice • Growing up sexually • Living well with risks • Befriending our fear • The four attributes of courage • Desire as courage • Daily practice • Becoming who you really are • Healing erotic wounds • Letting our erotic self teach us

Curiosity

Overcoming sexual boredom • Filling in the gaps of our sexual education • Exploration as the leader • Sensory intrigue • Opening as a creative act • Awakening to life, sexual and otherwise

Sensation

Awakening the senses • Out of the head and into the body • Trusting erotic impulses • Building a vocabulary of scent and taste • The healing language of touch • Erotic connections • Making noise • Negotiating shared sensations • Mindfulness • Falling into the body

Fantasy

Eliciting arousal through stories • Witnessing your fantasies • Fantasies as charged erotic fuel • The space between witnessing and enacting • Inner erotic landscapes • Uncovering the subconscious source of pleasure • Expressing desire • Submission and domination

Attention

Listening • Making the time • A radical leap • Creating a love container • Sustaining an atmosphere conducive to intimacy • Showing up vs. coexisting • Compassion as a way to connect • Sourcing from our center • Committing to something bigger than our selves

Gratitude

Letting go and receiving • Grateful sex • Healing through kindness • Receiving abundance • The importance of sexual freedom, revisited • A simple gratitude practice • A passionate love affair with your fleeting life

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781622038893
Publisher: Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date: 06/01/2017
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 549,932
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar is the founder and CEO of Good Clean Love. She is a relationship expert and the author of Love That Works (Love Words, 2009) who for the past 12 years has written on the topics of love, sexual health, and positivity. She lives in Eugene, Oregon. For more, visit makinglovesustainable.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction Learning to Feel ix

Chapter 1 Freedom 1

Creating a path to sexual freedom

Taking responsibility for your sexual evolution

Healing our harmful behaviors

Claiming erotic freedom

Overcoming silence

Giving yourself permission

Finding forgiveness

Chapter 2 Pleasure 15

As a medium of communication

Restoring our humanity

Orgasm

Relaxing our judgments about sexuality

The many benefits of self-pleasure

Owning the pleasure response

Calling pleasure by its true name

Transcendent orgasms

Broadening our sexual vocabulary

Pleasure as a fountain of youth

Chapter 3 Finding Your Normal 29

The universal uncertainty

Bridging the erotic with the rational

Putting sexual health in context

In isolation or community

The Sexual Identity Grid

The malady of sexual dysfunction

Trusting our erotic nature

Beyond right and wrong

Chapter 4 Courage 53

The gift of choice

Growing up sexually

Living well with risks

Befriending our fear

The four attributes of courage

Desire as courage

Daily practice

Becoming who you really are

Healing erotic wounds

Letting our erotic self teach us

Chapter 5 Curiosity 71

Humanity's beguiling capacity

Overcoming sexual boredom

Filling in the gaps of our sexual education

Exploration as the leader

Sensory intrigue

Opening as a creative act

Awakening to life, sexual and otherwise

Chapter 6 Sensation 87

Awakening the senses

Out of the head and into the body

Trusting erotic impulses

Building a vocabulary of scent and taste

The healing language of touch

Erotic connections

Making noise

Negotiating shared sensations

Mindfulness

Falling into the body

Chapter 7 Fantasy 111

Eliciting arousal through stories

Witnessing your fantasies

Fantasies as charged erotic fuel

The space between witnessing and enacting

Inner erotic landscapes

Uncovering the subconscious source of pleasure

Expressing desire

Submission and domination

Chapter 8 Attention 129

How attention heals us

Listening

Making the time

A radical leap

Creating a love container

Sustaining an atmosphere conducive to intimacy

Showing up vs. coexisting

Compassion as a way to connect

Sourcing from our center

Committing to something bigger than ourselves

Chapter 9 Gratitude 151

Letting go and receiving

Grateful sex

Healing through kindness

Receiving abundance

The importance of sexual freedom, revisited

Gratitude makes sex work

A simple gratitude practice

You are a product of love

A passionate love affair with your fleeting life

Appendix: Love Oil 163

Notes 167

Further Reading and Resources 177

Acknowledgments 189

Index 192

About the Author 195

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