The Breakup Workbook: Exercises & Advice to Help You Heal from Your Heartbreak & Create Your Best Life!

by Kendra Allen

Overview

Stop checking your ex’s social media page and start moving on with this guided workbook to help you get over your past relationships.

Breakups are hard, but the good news is that there are real, tangible ways to ease the pain and help you through it. The Breakup Workbook is here to help.

This workbook starts off with advice for the breakup itself, followed by the recovery stage and how to move through it as painlessly as possible, and then determining what you really want in a relationship (and in yourself) before getting ready to get back out there.

With fun exercises like Detox Your Ex-Checklist as well as self-care practices, expert advice, and journal prompts, this workbook is the tool you need to start living your best life today!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781507219171
Publisher:	Adams Media
Publication date:	09/06/2022
Pages:	208
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 7.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, blogger, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice. In 2017, she launched her Instagram account @YourBreakupBestie and began talking with thousands of people all over the world about what struggles they were going through post-breakup. After listening, researching, and pulling from personal experience Kendra launched her blog in 2018, online courses in 2019, and her podcast in 2020. Kendra has spoken with thousands, her social media has impacted millions, and she has personally coached hundreds of women through heartbreak. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Elite Daily, New York Post, Mind Body Green, and dozens of popular podcasts.

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

Part 1 Assembling Your First Aid Kit 11

Let's Talk about It 16

Talk Us Through Your Breakup 17

What Happened? 19

Rally Your Support System 21

List Your Support System 22

How Do You Feel about Asking for Help? 23

Have You Rallied Your Support System? 24

Support System Well-Being Checklist 25

Put Your Blinders On 26

Triggers to Avoid 27

Safety Zone 28

Get Through the Day 30

Which Activities Are Right for You? 31

Plan Your Morning Routine 32

Plan Your Nighttime Routine 33

Let's Practice Your Morning Routine 34

Keep Busy 36

Make Plans Happen 37

Dealing with Weekends and Days Off 38

Assemble Your Keeping-Busy Tool Kit 40

Planning Ahead 42

Feel Your Feelings 43

How Comfortable Are You with Your Feelings? 44

The Emotional Roller Coaster of a Breakup 46

Freewriting 48

What You're Feeling Is Normal 49

Is This Normal? 50

How Can You Accept Your Feelings More Freely? 54

Assembling Your First Aid Kit Review 55

Let's Recap 56

Part 2 Detoxing from Your Ex 59

Deal with Logistics 64

Tying Up Loose Ends 65

The Stuff: How to Return and Swap it 66

How to Navigate Mutual Friendships 67

Can You Be Friends with Your Ex? 68

Obey the No Contact Rule 70

Consider Your Thoughts on the No Contact Rule 71

What to Do Instead of Contacting 72

The No Contact Contract 73

If You Slip and Backtrack 74

How to Deal with Social Media 75

Cleanse Your Social Media of Your Ex 76

Manage Your Profile 78

Making Peace with Other Profiles on Your Feed 80

Developing a Healthy Relationship with Social Media 81

Actively Detox from Your Ex 82

Detox from Your Ex Checklist 83

Stop Playing Investigator 88

What Kind of Investigator Are You? 89

Recognizing the Lose-Lose Game 90

A Letter to Your Future Self 91

In Case of Emergency 92

Stay in Your Own Lane 93

Are You in Your Own Lane? 94

Let Go of How Your Ex Is Moving On 96

How to Stay in Your Lane 97

Affirmations to Help You Stay in Your Lane 99

Set Some Boundaries 100

Prepare to Set Some Boundaries 101

Fears Around Boundaries 106

Detoxing from Your Ex Review 107

Let's Recap 108

Part 3 Healing and Rebuilding 111

Accepting the Breakup 116

What Are You Struggling to Accept? 117

How to Accept the Breakup 118

Visualize Your Acceptance 120

Letting Go of False Hope 121

Has Your Given You False Hope? 122

Your Honest Hopes 123

Time to Release 124

The "Could Have"s and "Should Have"s 125

Treat Yourself Like Your Best Friend 126

Be Kinder to Yourself 128

Get Mad 129

Dear Ex, I'm Mad 130

Mow Does Anger Feel? 131

Release Any Anger You Have at Yourself 132

Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem 133

Mow Is Your Self Esteem? 134

What Do Others Love about You? 135

What Do You Love about You? 136

Build Self-Esteem with Esteem-able Acts 137

Filling the Void Left by the Relationship 138

Let's Look Into the Void 139

Let's Find a Substitute 140

Missing Your Ex versus Missing a Relationship 141

Regaining Your Identity 142

What Have You Neglected? 143

Defining Your Identity 144

Single Bucket List 145

Reclaiming 146

Overcoming Setbacks 147

Normal Setbacks During Heartbreak 148

Setback Tool Kit 151

Planning Ahead 152

Healing and Rebuilding Review 153

Let's Recap 154

Part 4 Moving On in Your Journey 157

Hindsight Is 20/20 162

How Clear Is Your Hindsight? 163

Ex on a Pedestal 164

How Have Your Views Changed? 165

Letter to Your Past Self 166

Discovering Patterns in Your Relationships 167

What Are Your Patterns? 168

Just My Type 169

Breaking the Habit 170

Holding On to Positive Patterns 171

Finding Forgiveness 172

Write a Forgiveness Letter to Your Ex 173

Write a Forgiveness Letter to Yourself 174

Signs You're over Your Ex 175

Where You Came From 176

Small Wins 177

Visualize Being Completely over Your Ex 178

Are You over Your Ex? A Checklist 179

Lessons Learned 181

Learning about You 182

Changing Habits 183

Blessings in Disguise 184

Self-Assessment 185

Are You Afraid of Getting Hurt Again? 186

Scarcity Mindset 187

Survey: Are You Ready to Start Dating Again? 189

Red Flags 190

Your "Kneepads" 191

Knowing What You Want 192

The Nonnegotiable Contract 193

Build-a-Partner 194

How Do You Want to Feel in a Relationship? 195

Grade Your Date 197

Attract What You Promote 198

Getting What You Want 199

Where Can I Meet Someone? 201

Refining Your List 202

Moving On in Your Journey Review 203

Let's Recap 204

Index 206