Overview
We all want a relationship with someone who matches our expectations of our ideal mate. We all have our list which we’ve been carrying around for so long we know it by heart. You know the words, “I’m looking for someone who…”, or, I need somebody who…” You fill in the blanks.
In matching our needs with the qualities we see in another person, we identify traits based upon our expectations for a successful relationship, which may be unrealistic, self-indulgent, or well-founded.
Many of us don’t know or can’t express what we really need in order to have a successful relationship, but we certainly know when we’re not getting what we need when a relationship doesn’t seem to get off the ground or when once started, begins to fall apart.
The Compatibility Analyzer lets you see, at a glance when your expectations are mismatched with the personality attributes you see in another person that you are in a relationship with or, you are dating, as shown in the example below, taken from the 1st of the 7 attributes in the Compatibility Analyzer™ form.
If the expected qualities that you’re looking for can be closely matched with the qualities in another person, there is a greater chance to build that relationship into a lasting one. For example, if you need someone who is spontaneous and the person you’re seeing is predictable, then you will show a mismatch in what you need with the reality of who this person is, and you will show a diagonal line drawn across the form, while a parallel line drawn across will show you a match. You will also be shown the meaning of each of the seven connections across the page on the form.
Focus will be on defined qualities as they relate to ones needs, as opposed to one’s wants, with the purpose of creating this distinction for you to use as a guide in determining if a particular relationship issue is indeed considered a need, as sustenance, or a want – as a wish fulfillment.
Go ahead, take the test! Find out if you’re wasting your time or if you’ve found a real keeper!
