A crash course in commitment: one couple and forty dates that could make or break their marriage before the wedding.
Picking a partner is life’s most important decision, but how are we supposed to make it? Being in love is a good start, but the issues that ultimately wreck marriages—money and monogamy, career and kids—are hard to gauge until you’re actually hitched. So after a few years of dating, Jill Andres and Brook Silva-Braga built The Marriage Test to confirm their compatibility before saying “I do.”
Forty revealing challenges simulate the issues that could tank or strengthen their union. For a month, they swap credit cards, for a weekend they borrow a baby. An embarrassing lunch with their exes tests their trust issues. Sexual gymnastics are required to recreate TV love scenes. From a night of speed dating to 24 hours handcuffed together, the crazy, awkward, emotional trials fling them headfirst into assorted marital minefields.
Is their love strong enough to weather real life? Only forty dates will tell...
|Publisher:||Penguin Publishing Group|
|Product dimensions:||5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.80(d)|
About the Author
Jill Andres is a business consultant who helps marketing and R&D teams create everything from cars and medicine to software and speaker systems.
Brook Silva-Braga is an Emmy Award-winning journalist and documentary filmmaker whose work has aired on HBO, CBS, MTV, National Geographic, and CNBC.
Table of Contents
In-Laws, Etc. 89
Quality Time 141
Marriage Prep 181
The Long Haul 201
Your Turn 223
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The Marriage Test: Our 40 Dates Before "I Do" by Jill Andres and Brook Silva-Braga is an honest and incredibly entertaining read about a young couple who hilariously put their long term relationship to the test before committing to marriage. If I had to categorize this book, I’d say it’s a mixture of marriage advice, inspirational, and humorous non-fiction genres. The book is organized into 40 chapters, each of which follow Jill and Brook on one of 40 dates that were designed to test their compatibility and strength as a couple in areas like trust, communication, money and sex. Each chapter gives a very honest (but still charming) account of the date from both Jill and Brook’s perspectives. The dates themselves seemed ridiculous at first: speed dating with other people at the same event, having friends act out your relationship in front of you like a bizarre theatre show, or even not touching or speaking to each for twenty-four hours. Each scenario brought up really interesting questions and issues, though, which the authors might not have considered if it weren’t for each of their 40 dates. One of the things I really loved about this book was how vulnerable and open the authors were with their viewpoints. Jill and Brook both seemed down to earth and relatable, which made reading The Marriage Test pretty fun, especially compared to some of the more bleak books that usually line the shelves of this genre. Throughout the book, the authors were easy to commiserate with. It’s clear that they struggled to overcome the same issues that the rest of us do in love and life. And even with all the pressure of the dates, the authors managed to keep the overall feel of the book very lighthearted. There’s also a guide in the back of the book for readers and their significant others to complete the 40 dates, too. Any couple who’s contemplating marriage and isn’t sure if they want to take the next step should definitely read this book. Hell, anyone looking to build a more intimate, transparent relationship should read it, too. This book is truly a fun, inspirational read that left me contemplating what it means to be close to my significant other. The Marriage Test left me considering what matters most to me in a relationship, what kind of partner I am and want to be, and whether my partner and I are truly honest about how we feel. I love that when I turned the last pages of the book, I felt uplifted and hopeful about putting effort into strengthening a relationship. Overall, this is a very charming read, and I truly think most couples will end up better off for having picked it up. (I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review)
Brook and Jill have written a great book to help you test your relationship. They do say right away that this isn't the make or break type of test, but it will certainly help you challenge yourself and your relationship. The "Test" contains 40 various dates/challenges that you can do that will test your relationship on one (or more) various fronts (sex, money, etc.) Some are definitely more adventurous and challenging than others, but all can provide some type of insight into you and your relationship. It's a good read and a fun set of things to do with your significant other!