I am addicted to positivity. I am addicted to positivity. I am addicted to positivity.
I care more about feeling great than being great.
I am NOT THAT GREAT.
The self-help industry tells you that if you're positive, if you put your best foot forward and if you just believe in yourself that you will find happiness. Let's be real, you can read all the inspirational quotes you want. You can spend your days giving yourself affirmations in your heart-shaped mirror and trying to learn to love yourself. You can say your mantra over and over again while sitting cross-legged on a yoga mat in a Whole Foods parking lot. But the truth is, you're not a badass and you still don't have the life you want. That's where You're Not That Great (but neither is anyone else) comes in. This book teaches you how to harness all the negativity in the world and use it to improve your life, taking everyday feelings like self-loathing, regret and shame and making them work for you. Positive thinking is for assholes. Negative thinking is for winners.
|Publisher:||Grand Central Publishing|
|Product dimensions:||6.10(w) x 7.10(h) x 0.80(d)|
About the Author
Elan Gale is a strange person and executive producer of The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Bachelor in Paradise, and several live shows. In his spare time, he is a social media provocateur who has amassed over 6 million social media followers between his various humorous accounts. He is small in stature, physically weak, and an alcoholic, but he has still managed to make himself a presence in the world. His antics have led him to be featured in the NYTimes, UsWeekly, Huffington Post, People Magazine, and The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, and countless other publications and blogs. He has already published two books under his nom de plume, Unspirational Texts from Your Ex, Tinder Nightmares and the upcoming Your Shitty Family. He currently lives in Los Angeles and hates traffic.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Right off the bat, I have to say that I would almost define this book as the anti self help, self help book. From the first page the reader is taken down to size and through the book taught how to bring themselves back up and what that means when a person can do that for themselves. It was an interesting read and as a person who doesn't read a ton of self help, it was out of my wheelhouse but intriguing. I liked seeing self help not always sunshine and rainbows and also that you make yourself great and you have to do it yourself and you can't rely on anyone else to do anything to move you forward. I would recommend this book to someone who has read all the self help and wouldn't mind something a little different. This shouldn't be read by anyone who is "faint of heart" because it could definitely be a kicker!
I wish I saved the receipt for this to get my money back. Total waste. This book is complete trash, I can't even finish reading it. I have never written a review on anything but this book was so terrible I felt the need to say something.
Seriously? Can Elan Gale express himself with other words besides using hundreds of F* bombs though out this book? He may have somewhat of a positive message to convey, but his delivery is trashy. He sounds like he still has buried anger that needed to be unleashed between his pages. I agree none of us should think of ourselves too highly, as we all have strengths, weaknesses, and regrets. However, I choose to surround myself with positive thoughts and people to go forward. Giving people praise is a good thing if it is genuine – if you can’t say something good to say, don’t say anything. I don’t consider it lies when our parents praised us for accomplishments or new milestones, etc. This is how we learned confidence. There are plenty of people and experiences in life to pull you down, so everyone needs a positive message and someone to help build you. Find a different book if your seeking self-help.