Should I sacrifice for others or take time to care for myself? Be generous or draw boundaries? Stay in a relationship or say goodbye? When I give to others, do I really need to give up myself? Tensions like these are not only a natural part of life--they are life. While modern society is ill-equipped to bring us back into balance, the sages of East and West are experts, and Honor Yourself explores their practical, and surprising, advice. Combining wisdom from the world's great traditions with real-life stories and a treasury of tools, it exposes the most potent myths about giving--half-truths that prevent us from living a life filled with possibility and passion. With candor, compassion, and a bit of humor too, Spadaro shows us how to move beyond the myths to the magic of full-hearted living so we can unleash the full power of our creative spirit and give our greatest gifts to our loved ones, our communities, and the world.
We are called to master the delicate dance of giving and receiving in virtually every area of our lives, and this beautiful work offers empowering and heartfelt ways to do it. It will free you to celebrate your own gifts and greatness as you explore the dynamics behind giving with the heart rather than the head, setting boundaries, being honest about unhealthy people in your life, using feelings to stay true to yourself, giving in ways that honor others, finding your own voice, honoring endings, and much more. Just as importantly, Honor Yourself will teach you the steps for staying in balance. For when you learn the steps, you can perform the dance--and that's when the magic begins.
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About the Author
Her book “Honor Yourself: The Inner Art of Giving and Receiving” combines wisdom from around the world with real-life stories and practical tools to create an inspiring guide to honoring your own needs, giving with the heart in ways that matter, letting go of energy-draining regrets, and celebrating your unique voice. “Honor Yourself” is the winner of two national book awards.
One of Patricia’s favorite themes is how we can embrace and work with the power of paradox in our lives. “Patricia Spadaro is a marvelous guide through the inner realms of the heart,” says bestselling author Marianne Williamson. “I always feel uplifted by her words.”
Patricia Spadaro is also a publishing coach who has helped many successful authors publish and market their works. Patricia invites you to join her at www.HowToHonorYourself.com
Table of Contents
Part 1 Fill Yourself and Honor Your Inner Needs
1 The Play of Paradox 5
2 Seeking Balance 11
3 Setting Boundaries 29
4 Accepting Support and Flying Solo 49
Part 2 Give Yourself Away and Honor Your Heart
5 Better than Bigger 67
6 What and When Do We Give? 75
7 The Magic of Flow 81
Part 3 Free Yourself and Honor Endings
8 Eyes Wide Open 99
9 Being Honest about Your Feelings 107
10 When the Way Comes to an End 125
11 Put Down the Load and Fly 135
Part 4 Celebrate Yourself and Honor Your Own Voice
12 Your Inborn Note 155
13 Walk in Your Own Shoes at Your Own Pace 165
14 Ever More Magnificent 179
15 Broadening Your Vision of the Possible 203
What People are Saying About This
"Patricia Spadaro's elegant writing takes us exactly where we need to be, on the journey inward. By exploring the existential conflicts we all face, we are led toward embracing the totality of life and of self. A must-read for everyone who struggles with balance: executives, stay-at-home moms, politicians, celebrities, and anyone who works hard and wants to live fully."--(Iris Martin, psychotherapist and author of From Couch to Corporation, The President's Psychoanalyst, and Mortgage Wars)
"Honor Yourself is more than just food for the soul-it is true healing for the heart. Patricia Spadaro provides an honest approach to self-love that will help us overcome the mental and emotional roadblocks that have created imbalances in our lives today. Taking a cue from ancient scriptures and healing traditions, she helps us understand the daily dance of give and take that makes up life's experiences. She is a new voice to be reckoned with as a pioneer in healing."--(Ann Louise Gittleman, Ph.D. C.N.S.. New York Times bestselling author of The Fat Flush Plan and Before the Change)
"Patricia Spadaro is a marvelous guide through the inner realms of the heart. I always feel uplifted by her words."--(Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love)
"In today's downward spiraling economy, Patricia Spadaro's book is essential reading if we are to personally survive. In searching the wisdom of our planet from the oldest truths to the most modern sayings, Patricia extinguishes the fires of myth that have held us in bondage to tension and stress. . . . Her writing is a breath of fresh air."--(Chris Prentiss, author of Zen and the Art of Happiness and Be Who You Want, Have What You Want)
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
The real question about Honor Yourself is not whether it is a good book or a great book (it's the latter) but what kind of great book. To answer that takes some perspective. Beneath the subtle beauty of the writing, Honor Yourself, positioned as a self help book, delivers its "help" by providing a host of practical spiritual and psychological solutions. But that's not what makes it great. This book deals with the play of paradox in a way not attempted since the Tao Te Ching which, according to tradition, was written millennia ago by Lao Tzu. The Tao, as it is commonly referred to, is an enigmatic text that deals with the ultimate paradox, the flow of the infinite and ungraspable principle through the polarities of yang and yin. The Tao is an obscure book, one that is intentionally hard to grasp, especially by minds in our time that want to measure, quantify, calibrate, cogitate. Lao Tzu, translated variously as Old Master or Old Fellow, was skilled in cloaking the essence of the Tao from the concrete mind. And so that ancient text has remained a mysterious beacon that lures people to a higher place. It is, however, a beacon that does not provide a practical set of ideas or exercises to apply its insights. And it could not. It was not until our time that we had the requisite accumulation of social, spiritual and psychological knowledge to put the Old Master's insights into action. And that, precisely, is what Patricia Spadaro has undertaken to do, consciously or not, in Honor Yourself. If the Tao te Ching is theory, Honor Yourself is practice. It isn't a cookbook or a treatise that tells you how to paint by the numbers. It doesn't merit over used terms --like memorable, exceptional, unique--that people repeat when reviewing books. Honor Yourself goes beyond canned solutions and empty praise and gives you the necessary thinking skills to resolve the paradoxes of life so that you can one day resolve the Great Paradox. I think the Old Fellow himself would be impressed.
I read this book as a part of group therapy and have learned so much about myself that I feel I am on a new path in life. I not only understand that it is important to honor myself, but more profoundly, it is okay to do so. Somehow I got the message in life that my place is to only do for others and that it was selfish to ever consider myself. In the end I realize I only lost myself and never found respect from others because I never projected love and respect for myself. This book is the fist gift of many that I will proudly give and receive to and from ME. I recommend this to anyone who suspects they may very well need to learn their own value or be reminded of it now and then. It would also be a great gift for a young woman starting in a new marriage or new family.
Patricia Spadaro delivers a powerful message of self-stewardship in her book "Honor Yourself the Inner Art of Giving and Receiving." Her words of wisdom provide the tools for honoring others as you honor yourself. As a life coach, I have recommended this transformational book to many of my clients. Jennifer Zach, Zach Coaching, LLC Live Well | Work Well | Be Well www.zachcoaching.com
I thoroughly enjoyed reading Patricia Spadaro's book "Honor Yourself." It is full of wisdom on how to balance one's life during these stressful times. She provides practical advice and tools to hlep create an environment of self-care. This self-care results in honoring yourself so that you are better able to be of service to others. Patricia Spadaro emphasizes each of the challenges that we face in trying to control our daily lives by focusing on the concept of 'Myth' (what phrase we might normally say or think) versus 'Magic' (what positive phrasing we can use to honor our giving and receiving choices). I have already purchased this book for my sisters and plan to buy more for my friends.
I have read the book and am reading it again. I have also given it to several people. Honestly I don't know if words can explain the depth of my gratitude. The paradoxes that Patricia Spadaro writes about have allowed me to grow and move forward. I am currently buying a copy of the book for anyone I think it will benefit. I have received wonderful feedback from it. "
I was so moved by Patricia Spadaro's book. It's what I always struggle with . . . balance. I had always bought into the myth that if I didn't sacrifice myself for others, I was abandoning them. It came into full bloom while I was caring for my mom after she was diagnosed with lung cancer. It is hard for me to find the words to convey the impact this book had on me during that whole process. The idea of putting myself first seemed selfish and self-centered. "Honor Yourself" not only helped me navigate through the months of caring for her, but also during the period after her transition. I used many ideas as affirmations to help me navigate through the process of learning to honor my own needs. If you need to be reminded to care for yourself before others without feeling guilty, this book will slam it home.
This book was just what I needed right now. It has helped me tremendously in dealing with a sticky family issue by learning the importance of accepting endings and letting go of regrets. I think it reaches people who are at many different levels - some who quickly grasp the concept of paradox and others who understanding it through the simple stories the author tells.
I loved how this author shatters the myths about giving and receiving that so many of us have grown up with. She shows us how it is not only OK to seek wholeness and care for ourselves before we try to help others but how it is in fact essential. We no longer need to feel guilty about balancing what others need with what we need. It also shows when we do need to give. Her story about the little girl and her open-hearted giving is worth the price of the book and will bring joy to your heart and a tear (of happiness) to your eye. This is a beautiful and empowering book that in a practical and heartfelt way will show you the keys to drawing boundaries, finding your own voice, honoring endings and giving with the heart in lieu of the head. This book showed me that I don't need to accept everything that comes to my doorstep as preordained but that I have the power and duty to be true to myself
I read Patricia's book eagerly.....almost obsessively. I recognized so many sign posts of life on the path of personal growth, stories of detours we have all taken, plus practical insight and advice. I am re-inspired to make my own life more expansive, expressive and rich in the spirit.
This book and Patricia are simply amazing. I am so thrilled to have the opportunity to read Honor Yourself: The Inner Act of Giving and Receiving... the timing couldn't have been better for me. It's a easy read that incorporates a wide range of sources and materials, all of which have been woven together brilliantly by this author. By reading this book I now have a better understanding for myself, and my abilities, too follow my extraordinary path of giving from the heart. I am very lucky to state that I got the opportunity to meet with Patricia and share a very splendid conversation with her just a few evenings ago- while visiting the beautiful town of Bozeman, MT. She was extremely nice and delighted to meet with me. I am happy that I followed my heart and got this book. You will too!