Queer Rites: A Magickal Grimoire to Honor Your Milestones with Pride

by Enfys J. Book, Ariana Serpentine (Foreword by)

Overview

Embrace Your Personal Power with 20 Queer-Specific Rituals

Queer people go through all kinds of unique milestones and rites of passage as we grow into our true selves. Whether you are coming out, attending your first Pride parade, or changing your pronouns, this book will help you enter these rites of passage thoughtfully and spiritually.

Explore rituals for honoring chosen family, going through gender transition milestones, exploring and affirming your gender and sexuality, entering your first queer relationship, and more. Enhance your rituals with a variety of magickal allies, including deities and community ancestors (such as queer activists and leaders).

Regardless of your skill level or spiritual tradition, Queer Rites makes it simple to connect your lived experiences to your magickal practice and commemorate occasions in a way that resonates with your unique and wonderful self.

Includes a foreword by Ariana Serpentine, author of Sacred Gender, and rituals by guest writers Storm Faerywolf, Misha Magdalene, Brandon Weston, and Rev. Ron Padrón

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780738776101
Publisher:	Llewellyn Worldwide, LTD.
Publication date:	01/08/2025
Pages:	240
Sales rank:	410,925
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Enfys J. Book (they/them) is the author of the Gold COVR award-winning Queer Qabala, co-author (with Ivo Dominguez, Jr.) of Sagittarius Witch, and author of the forthcoming Queer Rites: A Magickal Grimoire to Honor Your Milestones with Pride (Llewellyn, 2025). They are the High Priest of the Fellowship of the Ancient White Stag coven near Washington, DC. Enfys has taught classes on magickal practice around the world. They are also the creator of majorarqueerna.com, a website devoted to queer magickal practice with a focus on Qabala, and host a podcast called "4 Quick Q's: Book Talk with Enfys," where they interview pagan authors using questions determined by a roll of the dice.

Ariana Serpentine is a multi-traditional witch, polytheist, and animist. She is transgender and queer and has worked in political trans activism, raising awareness for the needs of her community within Pagan and other circles.

Table of Contents

Contents

Foreword – xv

Introduction – 1

Part 1: What Goes Into a Ritual?
Chapter 1: Ritual Basics – 7
Chapter 2: Performing the Ritual – 27

Part 2: The Rituals
Chapter 3: Personal Rites for Identity Exploration and Affirmation – 43
Sexuality Exploration Ritual – 44
Gender Exploration Ritual – 52
Sexuality Affirmation Ritual – 59
Name Change Ritual – 65
Pronoun Change Ritual – 74
Ritual for Taking on a Drag or Gender-Bending Persona – 81
Ritual for Empowering a Sex Work Persona – 88

Chapter 4: Rites for New Experiences – 95
Protection and Blessing Ritual for Someone About to Come Out – 96
Ritual for Gender Transition Milestones – 103
Ritual for Your First Visit to a Queer Space or Event – 110
Ritual for Entering Into Your First Queer Relationship – 119
Ritual for Attending Your First Political Action – 125

Chapter 5: Rites for Release and Healing – 131
Rite to Bury False Oaths – 132
Funeral for Your Deadname – 142
Ritual to Sever Ties from Unsupportive Family and Friends – 147
Ritual to Reconnect with Family and Friends – 155

Chapter 6: Celebrations – 161
Chosen Family Hearth Ritual – 162
Rite of Infinite Hearts: Handfasting Ritual for Two or More – 170
Coming Out Celebration Ritual – 181
Gender Affirmation Celebration for Transgender and Nonbinary People – 187

Conclusion – 193

Acknowledgments – 195

Glossary of Terms – 197

Further Reading – 201

Queer Support Organizations – 205

Bibliography – 213

Contributors – 217

About the Author – 219

Editorial Reviews

"[A] rich collection of 20 rituals commemorating queer rites of passage." them magazine

"Queer Rites is as magic and special as they come. The market is far from cornered on topics of queerness and magic, but the rites outlined here would be relevant and unique no matter what."
—Cassandra Snow, author of Queering the Tarot

"In an age wherein personal milestones have devolved into notch-marks of capitalist accumulation, Queer Rites reclaims the sacredness of the stages of life unique to the queer experience of our modern world."
—Tomás Prower, author of Queer Magic

"With a friendly, warm, and encouraging voice, Queer Rites is the wise friend a queer Witch needs to help them navigate the greatest moments of a magickal life. No matter how they identify, there are crucial things for a Witch to utilize within these pages."
—Courtney Weber, author of Sacred Tears

"I came out as a witch and as a queer man in the 1970s and I can only imagine how much my life would have been enriched if Queer Rites had been available then."
—Ivo Dominguez Jr., author of the Witch's Sun Sign series

"Queer Rites addresses the demand for rites of passage that speak directly to the experiences of LGBTQIAP2S+ people. An invaluable resource, empowering queer magickal practitioners to embrace their true selves with confidence and spiritual depth."
—Mat Auryn, author of Psychic Witch

"An incredible and must-have resource of rituals for the queer practitioner...and a necessary addition to any library for those seeking to understand and create more inclusive rites for their greater community as well."
—Laura Tempest Zakroff, author of Sigil Witchery

"A compassionate, encouraging guide to the ritual expression of queerness in all its forms. Enfys speaks to the reader as a wise and trusted friend."
—Jack Chanek, author of Queen of All Witcheries

"Incorporating concepts from modern Pagan religions, queer history, mythology, Hermetic Qabala, and Tarot, Enfys has crafted a truly necessary and practical guide."
—Thumper Forge, coauthor of Virgo Witch

"An incredible map through the evolving spiritual experience of queer people. This collection of rituals, ideas, and activities offers potent and profound ways to approach the different crossroads of life, from identity celebration to community involvement."
—Irene Glasse, author of Blackfeather Mystery School

"Enfys has taken the elements of Queer life that for so many have gone unnoticed and uncelebrated and offered a cohesive, powerful, and magical way to ritualize them. This is a handbook for individuals, groups, and communities alike."
—Kristoffer Hughes, author of The Book of Druidry

"You will find rituals to honor, celebrate, and sit with the various milestone experiences unique to, or common within, the queer community. In these pages, you will find a friend to help you navigate your own, fabulous path of self discovery."
—J. R. Mascaro, author of Seal, Sigil & Call

"Queer people have experiences that are so unique to our lives, we deserve to mark them with equally unique rites. From supporting challenging times to celebrating queer joy, Queer Rites will be known as an essential grimoire long into the future."
—David Salisbury, author of Witchcraft Activism

"An essential library component for those of us who've had little to no precedent up to now for our personal paths and passages as Queer-identified practitioners."
—S. J. Tucker, musician and witch

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