Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Chapter 1 Self-Love 4
The Importance of Self-Love 5
What Self-Love Isn't 9
Obstacles in Self-Love 11
Roadblocks to Self-Love 13
Preparing for Your Journey 13
Seven Segments of Self-Love 14
Chapter 2 Self-Awareness 16
Emotional Exploration 17
Emotional Awareness 18
Emotional Equations 19
The Depth of Emotions 20
Mindfulness 22
Self-Knowledge 24
Cultural Exploration 26
Highlighting Strengths 29
Finding Blind Spots 29
Feedback 32
Chapter 3 Self-Exploration 35
Getting to Know You 36
The Independent Interview 39
My Story 40
My Mission Statement 42
Cultural Exploration 43
Intersecting Identities 44
Inner Conflict 46
Exploring Inner Conflict 47
Creative Exploration 48
Chapter 4 Self-Care 50
Fill Your Cup 51
Your Wellness 52
Your Wellness Domains 53
My Current Wellness 55
My Future Wellness 57
Striving for Balance 58
My Wellness Plan 59
Self-Love Date 61
100 Ways to Cope 62
Coping Skills 63
Journaling 64
Creative Self-Care 65
Listening to Your Emotions 66
Coping Toolkit 68
Bad-Day Band-Aid 69
My Comfort Zone 69
Exploring My Support System 70
Challenging Self-Care 71
Chapter 5 Self-Esteem 73
Acknowledging My Worth 74
Me for Three 75
My Personal Qualities 75
Subjective Superlatives 76
Confident People 78
My Self-Confidence 79
Understanding Self-Efficacy 81
My Self-Efficacy 81
Role Models 83
My Inner Dialogue 84
Unhelpful Thinking 85
Formulas for Countering 87
Challenging Unhelpful Thinking 89
Petal Perspectives: Improving Positive Self-Talk 90
Me Messages 91
Trash Toss 91
Building Blocks 92
Motivational Messages 94
Affirmations 95
Positive Playlist 96
Chapter 6 Self-Kindness 99
Nice Notes 100
Love Letter 101
Encouragers 102
The Bully Versus the Friend 103
Letting Go of Negativity 105
Room for Growth 106
The Gracious Gap 107
Filling in the Gap 107
Setback Slingshot 108
Self-Patience 109
Embracing Imperfection 110
Self-Acceptance 111
Self-Forgiveness 112
Practicing Self-Forgiveness 113
Gifts of Gratitude 115
Chapter 7 Self-Respect 117
Values 118
Core Values 120
Personal Commandments 123
Congruence 124
Boundaries 126
Boundary Boxes 129
The Many Hats We Wear 130
Boundary Ranges 131
Boundary Levels 132
Boundary Circles 134
Your Remote Control 135
Assertiveness 136
Testing Boundaries 137
Tips to Build Better Boundaries 138
Healthy Relationships 139
Improving My Support System 141
Forgiveness 142
Apologies 143
Chapter 8 Self-Growth 146
Hopes and Dreams 147
Vision Board 148
Visualization 150
Setting Self-Loving Goals 151
Smart Goals 151
Create Smart Goals 152
Short-Term and Long-Term Goals 153
30-Day Self-Love Challenge 154
30-Day Challenge 155
Self-Growth Challenge 156
To-Do List 157
My Self-Growth Map 158
Recognizing Obstacles 160
Handling Setbacks 161
Stages of Change 163
Ready, Set, Go! 164
The Silver Lining Surrounding Challenges 165
Applying a Silver Lining 165
Learned Lessons 166
My Support System 167
Who Supports Your Self-Growth? 167
Giving and Growing 170
Paying It Forward 170
Continued Learning 171
Mental Health Counseling 172
Bibliography 175
Acknowledgments 180
About The Author 180
