The Self-Love Workbook: A Life-Changing Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Recognize Your Worth and Find Genuine Happiness

by Shainna Ali

Overview

Experience the life-changing magic of self-love!

You need love from yourself as much as from others. When you have low self-esteem, low confidence or even self-hatred, it’s impossible to live life to the fullest. It’s time to build your self-love and transform your attitude, emotions and overall outlook on life! This helpful workbook allows you to become aware of your own unique needs and goals while discovering how to better accept and love your true self. It includes a variety of constructive and actionable tips, tricks and exercises, including:

• Interactive Activities
explore a variety of fun and creative ways to love yourself

• Reflection Prompts
unpack your experiences and connect them to new lessons

• Helpful Advice
deepen your understanding of self-love and utilize it in the real world

Self-love allows you not only to see your true self, but to truly accept who you are wholeheartedly. With this acceptance comes the freedom and confidence to live your life to its fullest. It’s time to conquer self-doubt and self-sabotage. It’s time to love yourself!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781612438665
Publisher:	Ulysses Press
Publication date:	12/04/2018
Series:	Self-Love Books
Edition description:	Workbook
Pages:	160
Sales rank:	34,917
Product dimensions:	7.40(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Dr. Shainna Ali is a mental health counselor, educator, and advocate who is dedicated to highlighting the important role of mental health in fostering happiness, fulfillment, and overall wellness. She is the author of The Self-Love Workbook, The Self-Love Workbook for Teens, and Luna Finds Love Everywhere, and is the owner of Integrated Counseling Solutions, a counseling and consulting practice in Orlando, Florida. In her practice, she uses a strengths-based approach that empowers clients on their journey of self-love. Within the field of mental health, her areas of expertise include exploring identity and culture, fostering emotional intelligence, healing from trauma, and utilizing creative counseling methods. When she isn’t working, she invests in her self-love by practicing yoga, spending time with her loved ones, teaching dance, or exploring the world.

Dr. Shainna enjoys advocating for the importance of self-love and mental health at workshops and presentations, in the media, and through her Psychology Today–hosted blog, A Modern Mentality. She serves on the board for the Mental Health Association of Central Florida, has been named 30 under 30 by her alma mater, The University of Central Florida, was highlighted as an emerging leader by the Association of Counselor Education and Supervision, and has been honored with the Pete Fischer Humanitarian Award by the Florida Counseling Association.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 Self-Love 4

The Importance of Self-Love 5

What Self-Love Isn't 9

Obstacles in Self-Love 11

Roadblocks to Self-Love 13

Preparing for Your Journey 13

Seven Segments of Self-Love 14

Chapter 2 Self-Awareness 16

Emotional Exploration 17

Emotional Awareness 18

Emotional Equations 19

The Depth of Emotions 20

Mindfulness 22

Self-Knowledge 24

Cultural Exploration 26

Highlighting Strengths 29

Finding Blind Spots 29

Feedback 32

Chapter 3 Self-Exploration 35

Getting to Know You 36

The Independent Interview 39

My Story 40

My Mission Statement 42

Cultural Exploration 43

Intersecting Identities 44

Inner Conflict 46

Exploring Inner Conflict 47

Creative Exploration 48

Chapter 4 Self-Care 50

Fill Your Cup 51

Your Wellness 52

Your Wellness Domains 53

My Current Wellness 55

My Future Wellness 57

Striving for Balance 58

My Wellness Plan 59

Self-Love Date 61

100 Ways to Cope 62

Coping Skills 63

Journaling 64

Creative Self-Care 65

Listening to Your Emotions 66

Coping Toolkit 68

Bad-Day Band-Aid 69

My Comfort Zone 69

Exploring My Support System 70

Challenging Self-Care 71

Chapter 5 Self-Esteem 73

Acknowledging My Worth 74

Me for Three 75

My Personal Qualities 75

Subjective Superlatives 76

Confident People 78

My Self-Confidence 79

Understanding Self-Efficacy 81

My Self-Efficacy 81

Role Models 83

My Inner Dialogue 84

Unhelpful Thinking 85

Formulas for Countering 87

Challenging Unhelpful Thinking 89

Petal Perspectives: Improving Positive Self-Talk 90

Me Messages 91

Trash Toss 91

Building Blocks 92

Motivational Messages 94

Affirmations 95

Positive Playlist 96

Chapter 6 Self-Kindness 99

Nice Notes 100

Love Letter 101

Encouragers 102

The Bully Versus the Friend 103

Letting Go of Negativity 105

Room for Growth 106

The Gracious Gap 107

Filling in the Gap 107

Setback Slingshot 108

Self-Patience 109

Embracing Imperfection 110

Self-Acceptance 111

Self-Forgiveness 112

Practicing Self-Forgiveness 113

Gifts of Gratitude 115

Chapter 7 Self-Respect 117

Values 118

Core Values 120

Personal Commandments 123

Congruence 124

Boundaries 126

Boundary Boxes 129

The Many Hats We Wear 130

Boundary Ranges 131

Boundary Levels 132

Boundary Circles 134

Your Remote Control 135

Assertiveness 136

Testing Boundaries 137

Tips to Build Better Boundaries 138

Healthy Relationships 139

Improving My Support System 141

Forgiveness 142

Apologies 143

Chapter 8 Self-Growth 146

Hopes and Dreams 147

Vision Board 148

Visualization 150

Setting Self-Loving Goals 151

Smart Goals 151

Create Smart Goals 152

Short-Term and Long-Term Goals 153

30-Day Self-Love Challenge 154

30-Day Challenge 155

Self-Growth Challenge 156

To-Do List 157

My Self-Growth Map 158

Recognizing Obstacles 160

Handling Setbacks 161

Stages of Change 163

Ready, Set, Go! 164

The Silver Lining Surrounding Challenges 165

Applying a Silver Lining 165

Learned Lessons 166

My Support System 167

Who Supports Your Self-Growth? 167

Giving and Growing 170

Paying It Forward 170

Continued Learning 171

Mental Health Counseling 172

Bibliography 175

Acknowledgments 180

About The Author 180

Editorial Reviews

"Therapist and mental health advocate Dr. Shainna Ali helps you manage large and small-scale personal transformation with The Self-Love Workbook. Dr. Ali’s book is packed with exercises and prompts to help you care for yourself and learn better self-care practices."

Book Riot

"Reviewers call The Self Love Workbook an 'incredible self-discovery book' and 'definitely a great tool to help look into your self.' It contains interactive activities, reflective writing prompts, and easy-to-apply advice, all of which aim to boost your self-esteem and 'accept who you are wholeheartedly.'

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