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Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption

Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption

by Deborah J. Cohan
Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption

Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption

by Deborah J. Cohan

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Overview

Winner of the 2022 Memoir Prize for Books - Caregiving category​
ESS Public Sociology Award​
Recommended Book in Domestic Violence by DomesticShelters.org

How do you go about caregiving for an ill and elderly parent with a lifelong history of abuse and control, intertwined with expressions of intense love and adoration? How do you reconcile the resulting ambivalence, fear, and anger?
 
Welcome to Wherever We Are is a meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we remember others and ultimately how we’re remembered. Deborah Cohan shares her story of caring for her father, a man who was simultaneously loud, gentle, loving and cruel and whose brilliant career as an advertising executive included creating slogans like “Hey, how ‘bout a nice Hawaiian punch?” Wrestling with emotional extremes that characterize abusive relationships, Cohan shows how she navigated life with a man who was at once generous and affectionate, creating magical coat pockets filled with chocolate kisses when she was a little girl, yet who was also prone to searing, vicious remarks like “You’d make my life easier if you’d commit suicide.”
 
In this gripping memoir, Cohan tells her unique personal story while also weaving in her expertise as a sociologist and domestic abuse counselor to address broader questions related to marriage, violence, divorce, only children, intimacy and loss. A story most of us can relate to as we reckon with past and future choices against the backdrop of complicated family dynamics, Welcome to Wherever We Are is about how we might come to live our own lives better amidst unpredictable changes through grief and healing.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781978808928
Publisher: Rutgers University Press
Publication date: 02/14/2020
Edition description: New Edition
Pages: 184
Sales rank: 409,564
Product dimensions: 5.10(w) x 8.10(h) x 1.10(d)
Age Range: 16 - 18 Years

About the Author

Deborah J. Cohan is a professor of sociology at the University of South Carolina-Beaufort. Alongside her many academic publications, she is the author of the popular blog “Social Lights” for Psychology Today.
 

Table of Contents

Introduction                                                                                                               
  1. Phone Calls                                                                                                    
  2. The Diaries                                                                                                     
  3. Messages                                                                                                        
  4. Accidents                                                                                                       
  5. Sugar                                                                                                              
  6. The Dinner Table                                                                                           
  7. The Kaleidoscope                                                                                          
  8. Medical Records                                                                                            
  9. The Gold Pen                                                                                                 
  10. The Volunteer                                                                                                
  11. Random Acts of Kindness                                                                             
  12. Death Notice                                                                                                  
  13. Obituary                                                                                                         
  14. Ashes                                                                                                             
  15. Birthday Letter                                                                                              
  16. Re-learning to Fly                                                                                          
  17. The Birth(day) Ring                                                                                      
  18. Worry Machine                                                                                              
  19. Change of Address                                                                                        
Epilogue
Acknowledgements

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